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Extremely noisy upstairs neighbor
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Kids being kids is not always an excuse. Some parents allow their children to run amok making unreasonable noise and disturbing others. Pretty sure we've all experienced this in public.
So, unless we have some real insight into the degree of this kid "just being a kid", we should roll back the lectures on that.
So, unless we have some real insight into the degree of this kid "just being a kid", we should roll back the lectures on that.
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Lots of people having kids without first having a game plan around discipline and boundaries.
I'm not doubting it is annoying, and your situation sounds particularly frustrating and unreasonable. I was referring to the OP situation, where it appears no counter-complaints are being made.
Haha.
You either move or you record them being loud over a period of multiple weeks in breach of their crontracts.
These are the only solutions that work.
Worst was a neighbour who kept on having loud sex with random strangers as her babies litteraly screamed for hours in end in the other side of the house. I say random men cus I'm certain she was a sex worker and purposefully was loud as possible because I assume they were paying for it or some shit.
These are the only solutions that work.
Worst was a neighbour who kept on having loud sex with random strangers as her babies litteraly screamed for hours in end in the other side of the house. I say random men cus I'm certain she was a sex worker and purposefully was loud as possible because I assume they were paying for it or some shit.
Do you have a landlord you can speak to about it? If they are making an excessive amount of noise, I would recommend making a recording of it and notifying them about the issue.
Otherwise kids get hyper and kids get loud, at least its not a bunch of small dogs.
Otherwise kids get hyper and kids get loud, at least its not a bunch of small dogs.
Get a sound system, turn it up to 11 and blast that motherfucker. /s
Purposefully loud neighbors that make noise constantly to disturb others are fucking pieces of shit.
Purposefully loud neighbors that make noise constantly to disturb others are fucking pieces of shit.
Yup :( Basically the situation I was in last year. Lady moved in with two kids, and that house was old. Everything thundered and echoed.
Wound up moving out.
Sometimes the floor insulation is so thin that normal action like walking sounds like stomping downstairs. You really can't expect your upstairs neighbors to tip toe around the house during the day... especially the kid.
Unfortunately there isn't much you can do besides move to a different unit. Or learn to deal with the noise.
Unfortunately there isn't much you can do besides move to a different unit. Or learn to deal with the noise.
Also from the Netherlands. In my rental contract there is a clause that the apartment is not suitable for children. Even though my upstairs neighbours are noisy too, we usually settle it among ourselves instead of dragging the landlord in this. So I don't know if it will help you, but it might be worth re-reading your contract.
I saw this video a little bit ago and was trying to find it again. Fucking hilarious.
Are they wearing shoes?
You can't really expect his kid to not run around.
Good idea, they could give the kid up for adoption if they can't simply find a new appartment.
You can't really expect his kid to not run around.
Good idea, they could give the kid up for adoption if they can't simply find a new appartment.
Agreed, but it doesn't sound like that is the case for the OP.
Are you living in a old building? Up until about 20 years ago apartments probably had carpets with underlay, which deadened the noise, but now the norm is to have wooden floors or linoleum... I would imagine that your upstairs neighbours aren't doing anything unreasonable, just living their lives normally, but due to thin floors and lack of insulation it sounds like a herd of elephants to you. I believe there are minimum standards for insulation under hard floors in NL, but in my experience it does very little if the floors are thin (often the case in old buildings).
My suggestion would be to talk it over with them in a friendly, non-confrontational way, maybe get one of them to come and listen what it sounds like for you, and then offer to go halves on getting some rugs/carpets with thick underlay in the most heavily trafficked areas of their apartment. In particular, there will be certain routes / locations where the kid(s) like to play, where a rug will give you the most benefit in terms of sound deadening. It will also be nice for the kid to have something softer to play on, maybe with an interesting pattern which they'll enjoy, but the rest of the apartment will still have the nice wooden floors that the adults like.
My suggestion would be to talk it over with them in a friendly, non-confrontational way, maybe get one of them to come and listen what it sounds like for you, and then offer to go halves on getting some rugs/carpets with thick underlay in the most heavily trafficked areas of their apartment. In particular, there will be certain routes / locations where the kid(s) like to play, where a rug will give you the most benefit in terms of sound deadening. It will also be nice for the kid to have something softer to play on, maybe with an interesting pattern which they'll enjoy, but the rest of the apartment will still have the nice wooden floors that the adults like.
There are definitely parents out there that just let their kids do whatever especially in public, but I don't know how many time outs/toy taking/stern talking you can do until kids just start throwing fits and running around. That's even if he's throwing fits or just idk, running around because he's hyped off Power Rangers. Is Power Rangers still a thing?
Not my problem. In all seriousness, I doubt any Dutch landlord is going to evict someone just for having a child. It might be a way to jumpstart a conversation though.
It honestly sounds like the problem is shitty acoustics in the apartment building itself. If it were me, I would move. Because you're not going to be able to get any neighbor anywhere to tiptoe around their apartment at noon.
That's why I hated living in apartments. The neighbor below would complain about us all of the time and we weren't even doing shit.
And the people above us sounded like they were rolling around in the floor all of the time
And the people above us sounded like they were rolling around in the floor all of the time
I´m not saying this is the issue with the OP as he may have a legitimate gripe, but some people are just not made for apartment living because they expect it to be quiet whenever THEY want it to be but unfortunately it´s not their house. They share the building and some don´t seem to understand that.
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Walking around and having a kid are things people are allowed to do in their domicile. I have a downstairs neighbor who has threatened to call the cops on my kids for making noise and let me tell you it isn't fun wondering if you could get evicted because you are living in your apartment in a completely normal way.
I mean, instead of using your situation to guilt trip someone, is it hard to imagine OP isn't being unreasonable with his complaint.
A variety of noises could come from kids. Sometimes they're noisy, sometimes they bang on things, sometimes they run, we all know this.
But "they're kids, they can do whatever, just put up with it no matter what" seems to be this threads answer.
If it was loud music or a blaring TV or loud talking/stomping at odd hours you'd probably be able to get somewhere.
Not sure what you can reasonably do in this situation though. Sounds like it's not a well constructed building either which is probably adding to the problem.
Not sure what you can reasonably do in this situation though. Sounds like it's not a well constructed building either which is probably adding to the problem.
This so much!
Also a thing you could try if your upstairs neighbours are constantly really loud and don't give af is approaching their next door neighbours and your next door neighbours. If you all agree about them being disturbingly loud 24/7 next step is the landlord. Things should move fairly fast afterwards.
Gotta agree with this. Kids aren't well known to control their impulsive decisions. I'll tell my kid to stop running and it will last for a few minutes until she's excited about something then completely forgets.
Personally my approach has been to reach out to my neighbor downstairs and ask "Is the noise ok. What time is it not ok." In my case it's not an issue because she's hard of hearing and elderly.
But by default toddlers are noisy. You're delusional if you think you're keeping them 100% silent throughout the day during a pandemic when folks are staying home more than ever.
You want to evict a family in the middle of a pandemic and recession?
We had a similar problem and several families raising the issue together with the building management solved it. They did not leave, they just didn't bother anyone anymore.
If you can't move then noise canceling headphones.
People doing stuff during the day is what it is.
People doing stuff during the day is what it is.
I have this weird thing that I can hear my upstairs neighbor walking or when he drops things, but sometimes he plays a guitar and sings and I don't notice it unless I get out of my apartment.
Floors are super conductors for tiny sounds. I have lived under people just going about their day and it can be quite annoying, but you can't do much.
Yeah, it's very weird they don't at least require area rugs.
there's really nothing to do except try to move to the top floor yourelf. it's just a risk/downside of living under someone else.
my downstairs neighbor constantly complains about me making too much noise. but it's like what am i supposed to do? not walk around my apartment?
my downstairs neighbor constantly complains about me making too much noise. but it's like what am i supposed to do? not walk around my apartment?
Unfortunately I don't think there's an easy solution for this.
I've lived in my current place for a number of years without any major complaints.
The building has really solid construction with thick brick walls, and I can be playing music louder than I'd ever listen to in one room; yet barely hear it in the next.
Then in the past year my neighbor ripped out all of her carpets/insulation and put in cheap laminate flooring without the proper underlay or large area rugs.
That shit creaks all day and magnifies every footstep. It's awful when there are grandchildren or relatives that bring their dog over - and that's been happening a lot more recently.
She's hard of hearing and always had the TV up loud, but it was never a problem before.
Then she got a new flat panel TV put on the wall, which sends audio directly into the floor now - so we get more noise and she has to turn it up even louder to hear it better. I think it's actually mounted directly above our couch.
Fuck whoever came up with the idea of using down-firing speakers in televisions to hide them.
Oh, and a new neighbor now sprints down the stairs full force at 5am on-the-dot every day without any pretense of trying to be quiet, but that doesn't actually bother me because I use earplugs when I sleep. It's only something I noticed recently as I've had difficulty sleeping and had been watching TV (with headphones) in the other room.
I wish I had the option to move somewhere without shared walls - or at least not have someone above me - but I'm unlikely to have that opportunity any time soon.
I've lived in my current place for a number of years without any major complaints.
The building has really solid construction with thick brick walls, and I can be playing music louder than I'd ever listen to in one room; yet barely hear it in the next.
Then in the past year my neighbor ripped out all of her carpets/insulation and put in cheap laminate flooring without the proper underlay or large area rugs.
That shit creaks all day and magnifies every footstep. It's awful when there are grandchildren or relatives that bring their dog over - and that's been happening a lot more recently.
She's hard of hearing and always had the TV up loud, but it was never a problem before.
Then she got a new flat panel TV put on the wall, which sends audio directly into the floor now - so we get more noise and she has to turn it up even louder to hear it better. I think it's actually mounted directly above our couch.
Fuck whoever came up with the idea of using down-firing speakers in televisions to hide them.
Oh, and a new neighbor now sprints down the stairs full force at 5am on-the-dot every day without any pretense of trying to be quiet, but that doesn't actually bother me because I use earplugs when I sleep. It's only something I noticed recently as I've had difficulty sleeping and had been watching TV (with headphones) in the other room.
I wish I had the option to move somewhere without shared walls - or at least not have someone above me - but I'm unlikely to have that opportunity any time soon.
Dealt with loud upstairs neighbors for years, but thankfully no children were ever involved. Most parents my age (early 30s) are too gutless to corral their young since they don't want other people thinking they're child-beaters, so they swing the complete opposite direction and make half-hearted requests for compliance while regretting numerous life decisions.
Good luck in your future.
Good luck in your future.
My neighbours are loud during the day, and have young kids. It's irritating, but it's not anything I feel I should complain about.
A few years ago I had a neighbour who was up all night every night, working out with weights and loud music. The room would shake! That's something I should have complained about, but unsurprisingly he was jacked as fuck and I didn't want the confrontation, so I moved out. Of course that's not an option for everyone.
A few years ago I had a neighbour who was up all night every night, working out with weights and loud music. The room would shake! That's something I should have complained about, but unsurprisingly he was jacked as fuck and I didn't want the confrontation, so I moved out. Of course that's not an option for everyone.
I had a downstairs neighbor who was constantly complaining to the landlord about us. At one point she started banging on our door and when I answered it she went off about the noise we were making. My girlfriend and I were both sitting quietly on the couch. She was reading and I was working on my laptop. Neither of us had so much as put our feet on the floor in the last half hour, no tv, no music, nothing. It turned out the sound was carrying through the walls and ceiling from elsewhere and not noticeable through our floorboards but was really loud in her unit.
I also had an acquaintance who I visited once. They had an 8-month-old large breed dog that would literally run laps around their apartment for 10 minutes at a time multiple times per day because they didn't give it enough exercise, enrichment, or mental stimulation. It was loud as hell in their apartment and they acted like their downstairs neighbors were jerks for complaining. I told them they were being rude and they became very offended by the idea that they shouldn't do whatever the fuck they want and their neighbors should have to deal with it.
I prefer to live on the top floor when possible for a variety of reasons.
I also had an acquaintance who I visited once. They had an 8-month-old large breed dog that would literally run laps around their apartment for 10 minutes at a time multiple times per day because they didn't give it enough exercise, enrichment, or mental stimulation. It was loud as hell in their apartment and they acted like their downstairs neighbors were jerks for complaining. I told them they were being rude and they became very offended by the idea that they shouldn't do whatever the fuck they want and their neighbors should have to deal with it.
I prefer to live on the top floor when possible for a variety of reasons.