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Era, you ever live alone?
- Thread starter Weegian
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With the exception of last year, I've lived alone all my adult life. Last year I moved in with my then-girlfriend about an hour drive away, and spent the entire year commuting 2-3 hours a day to my old town until I landed a job in the new town. I had barely started when she fell for a guy at her new job, broke up with me, and I had to move in with my sister until I could find my own place back in the old town again. Because of COVID I can work from home instead of commuting the other way, but also due to COVID I wasn't able to get my old job back.
And she cheated too, so there's that. Anyway, I found it hard at first to go back to living alone when you've been in a domestic relationship. But it's more the relationship aspects of it I miss.
And she cheated too, so there's that. Anyway, I found it hard at first to go back to living alone when you've been in a domestic relationship. But it's more the relationship aspects of it I miss.
Currently living alone. Been doing so for the past 4 years. It gets lonely, but that's what call girls are for.
This. I do think I would feel lonely if I didn't have my cat though.
Other than that the experience is pretty great.
I've been living on my own for a few months now.
Me and my girlfriend bought the house early last year, and then she cheated on me earlier this year.
She moved out in July and I've been alone ever since.
it's been a bad time for my mental health. I really struggled at first, but it's become a little easier over the last month. It's the loneliness that gets to me the most. COVID has made that part more difficult too.
Outside of the loneliness though, it's pretty good. Nice that I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, in any room of the house. Did make me realise that my ex did a lot more of the housework than I thought though 😂
Me and my girlfriend bought the house early last year, and then she cheated on me earlier this year.
She moved out in July and I've been alone ever since.
it's been a bad time for my mental health. I really struggled at first, but it's become a little easier over the last month. It's the loneliness that gets to me the most. COVID has made that part more difficult too.
Outside of the loneliness though, it's pretty good. Nice that I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, in any room of the house. Did make me realise that my ex did a lot more of the housework than I thought though 😂
For me, living alone was crucial. I also dated someone through college, then started living together after, and one of the reasons I ended things was just the feeling that my life was being railroaded and I needed time to live alone and not be responsible for anyone. I lived alone for about 2 years before I met someone else, and now we are married. Those two years living alone were great, I matured a lot and grew into my adult self. It made me way more independent and interesting, bc before I would just go along with whatever my gf wanted. Towards the end it definitely got old, and I'm happy to be married now, but I definitely needed that time in my life.
For sure. I also find it empowering at the same time. I've learned so much and have taken care of so many things on my own that I didn't imagine I was capable of some 13 years ago when I first bought my home.
I live alone in the suburbs and I love it.
Minimum amount of bullshit, maximum amount of what I want to do.
Minimum amount of bullshit, maximum amount of what I want to do.
i technically had a roommate at the time, but we worked literal opposite shifts (i worked Fri-Sat-Sun from 6am to 6pm, he worked Mon-Tue-Wed-Thurs from like noon to midnight and had a two hour total commute) so we almost never saw each other. if thats what really living alone is like... it was fucking awesome. having a place to yourself, where you are the only one responsible for everything (in this case, we cleaned up after ourselves and never encountered anyone elses messes/clutter), and can enjoy it according to your own whims and pleasures is absolutely fantastic. it also helped that the apartment was incredible. i miss that shit a lot tbh
Been on my own going on 12 years now and I love it. I just love the freedom and I think it'd be hard to go back if I ever did settle down with someone again. I lived with numerous people in the past, some girlfriends, some roommates and they all were enjoyable at times but now that I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, without the risk of annoying anyone else and not getting annoyed myself... it's hard to give up.
I also live really close to my dad which is nice so we can visit a lot and I have friends that aren't far away. I won't lie and say it's not lonely at times, but nothing that seems to impact me all that much day to day.
I also live really close to my dad which is nice so we can visit a lot and I have friends that aren't far away. I won't lie and say it's not lonely at times, but nothing that seems to impact me all that much day to day.
I've been living alone in a 2-story house for the past 8 years. The cats keep me company. I wouldn't change it for the world, it rules.
It's pros and cons, I love living alone and I love living with people I love.
I also get sick of both sometimes and miss the other.
I also get sick of both sometimes and miss the other.
Yes, I've been living alone for more than 7 years. I dated someone a couple of years back and she lived with me every other week, and after a while I kind of hated losing that me time, lol. If I'm being honest with myself, this is probably a big part of why it didn't work out between us. I've been living by myself for so long now that I kind of don't want to stop doing so, even if that means I'll stay single
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Yeah I've live alone a bunch.
It's my favorite. Though I do tend to stay up later than normal just because I don't have to worry about disrupting people later at night.
It's my favorite. Though I do tend to stay up later than normal just because I don't have to worry about disrupting people later at night.
Living alone can be great, but I don't recommend doing it in a city where you don't know anyone and have no friends to invite over/go out with.
Living with a partner/SO is significantly different to living with friends/roommates though. If they're the right type of person, you still get a lot of the freedoms you enjoy living alone, e.g. casual nakedness and the general not-giving-a-fuck feeling.
Living with a partner/SO is significantly different to living with friends/roommates though. If they're the right type of person, you still get a lot of the freedoms you enjoy living alone, e.g. casual nakedness and the general not-giving-a-fuck feeling.
Yes, and I love it.
Wouldn't want to live alone forever but man, I enjoy coming home and being able to do whatever the fuck I want without having to think about anybody else.
I can just leave things lying around until they bother me, I can sit around in my underwear and watch TV, it's great.
Do I want to throw my worn underwear in the fridge? No but I could if I wanted to!
Wouldn't want to live alone forever but man, I enjoy coming home and being able to do whatever the fuck I want without having to think about anybody else.
I can just leave things lying around until they bother me, I can sit around in my underwear and watch TV, it's great.
Do I want to throw my worn underwear in the fridge? No but I could if I wanted to!
I live alone (with a cat) - I'm very introverted, so I need my own space, so that part is great. Sometimes I feel lonely, having no one at home when you arrive, or to share your day, stuff like that. I have lived together with my then-girlfriend for a few years, and our dynamic allowed me to have some "me" time, so that was the best of both worlds for me. My experience of living with roommates was terrible.
Living alone is incredibly depressing for me. I moved across the country earlier this year on my own, and then covid happened. I've been living alone since march and it's very difficult not having human connection right now.
I've lived alone the last 5 years. I wouldn't say it is the greatest thing ever. I never had an issue with roommates or living with a gf before so I never felt like I didn't have the freedom to do whatever I wanted when I did live with others.
The biggest issue for me is the loneliness. I have a dog but its not the same. I have a number of friends who I use to regularly see and do stuff with but that had decreased in the last few years with everyone settling down and having kids. Plus with Covid shutting everything down that doesnt help.
The biggest issue for me is the loneliness. I have a dog but its not the same. I have a number of friends who I use to regularly see and do stuff with but that had decreased in the last few years with everyone settling down and having kids. Plus with Covid shutting everything down that doesnt help.
Pretty much always. I had roommates freshman year of college and then for about two months in 2012. Both times, I did not care for it. Like when they're out in the living room I was like "fuck, this is insufferable, I want to use the living room." Sometimes I think it might be healthier to have a roommate though.
How nice that must be for you.
I have been alone for years now and I don't see it changing any time soon.
I have been alone for years now and I don't see it changing any time soon.
I'm basically in your seat, tried the sambo thing with a girlfriend and I really didn't care for it. I have a dog I love very much though, and it'll be a very tough transition when she eventually passes to go from "by myself with wonderful dog" to "by myself". Unlike ending the sambo relationship which was a relief of a transition.
Yes. Just over 20 years of living alone. Being a loner it comes naturally to me. Not everyone is desperate for company.
I lived alone for a little over seven years from 2007 to 2014. It had its ups and downs. I enjoyed the freedom of having my own space and being able to keep whatever odd hours I wanted, although living in an apartment vs. a house meant I still couldn't blast my music super loud or whatever. The loneliness did get to me sometimes (I adopted a pair of cats about three years in, which helped), and as someone who was already dealing with social anxiety, I also started to develop more paranoiac and agoraphobic tendencies over time, especially during the winter or when I was under a lot of work-related stress. Since I almost never had guests over, there was no one to hold me accountable for keeping the place clean, and I'd let laundry and dishes pile up longer than I otherwise would have.
There are times I miss it for sure, but overall I'm in a healthier and more responsible state living with others.
There are times I miss it for sure, but overall I'm in a healthier and more responsible state living with others.
Yes and it was the best thing in my life. No unannounced/drop-in guests who just show up whenever to see whoever in your house. No roommate bullshit. Can invite anyone anytime, can do whatever the fuck with my time. Can put on headphones because I wouldn't have to worry about someone needing me. Don't have to wear clothes. It was great. I can't think of a reason why I wouldn't wanna live like that again. Other than not being able to afford an apartment by myself, of course.
Sometimes I think about getting a hotel room on my off-day just so I can experience that again. Being away from the people in this house.
Sometimes I think about getting a hotel room on my off-day just so I can experience that again. Being away from the people in this house.
It's great. There are some things you can only do when you live alone and don't have to consider other people. If I'm lonely, I can just invite someone over and have that experience for a bit until I'm tired. Having an entire space to yourself to retreat to is so valuable.