Your reading of the situation is that there are harassers and the rest of us. That's wrong. People who engage in harassment are bred in the overblown nonsense that counts as discourse in the gaming space.
I am sick and tired of the desperate need to coddle the silly things that gamers get up in arms about. The EGS store debacle is just the latest iteration.
It is not that big a deal and the end result was eminently predictable based on previous behaviors. However, because we all have to protect the ego of the all powerful consumer masses this sort of tripe is allowed to become mainstream discourse.
I'm not accusing you of anything in particular. I appreciate that it gets heated and people say idiotic things. I do, however fully believe that the language we use in these situations makes a difference.
You saying you felt attacked by an incredibly mild statement from devs is a ridiculous overreaction in a long line of ridiculous overreactions in the gaming space. It contributes to an over riding feeling that what is going on here is serious and we need to speak about it seriously.
That all leads to some people feeling they have to do something or are justified in calling these deplorable scum developers exactly what they are.
I'm probably not helping by writing this, I'm just going to fire up more people. What is really needed is for people to realise this isn't important and if we can't agree to just let it be and go our separate ways.
There are harassers, the rest of us, and those in between. Those in between definitely need to be called out, but I personally don't place myself in that category by calling what the developers said an "attack." To me an attack is simply a bout of criticism that is fierce, pointed and possibly laden with half-truths and hyperbole of its own; if I were to say that my issues with the post were simply a matter of 'the wrong tone' then I would be lying to myself. Similarly I never denied that language doesn't affect this, I was replying to a post saying that 'it wasn't an attack' and then said that it wasn't
the answer, especially if it involves asking people to lie to themselves and reject their own emotions. Those people 'in between' who do use unnecessarily hyperbolic language (and 'attack' is not one of them imo, but the words you put into my mouth are for sure) definitely make things worse for everyone because, more often than not, they are in the position where that language goes out to a large enough platform that it can end up harming things.
Though the whole 'coddling' aspect is I guess where our views differ, because in my eyes (and from my experience) they are more coddled by the notion that if things had been different that they would have been 'justified' than from the language used by those on their own side. Look to the comments sections and you'll see many examples of people defending the harassment because
they felt it was justified, and engaging those people by saying "no, it wasn't justified," moves the whole conversation on to their own terms. It's no longer about the shitty godawful thing they did but about whether or not EGS is bad or whether the developers were in the wrong.
If we can admit that they were angry, admit that they felt like they were attacked, and most importantly admit that those things
are not the point, then I feel that all that will allow
them to admit is that they were in the wrong.