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Does anyone actually keep in touch with people in college?
- Thread starter Milennia
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Never made many close friends in college, had some acquaintances, my core group of friends is still from Jr High / High School and some other folks from along the way.
Not really. I have a fantasy football league with some members of a club I was in. Mostly just work, eat and sleep (and game)
For sure keep in touch with most. My four closest friends constantly get together online to play DnD, video games, etc.
I barely talk to my college friends lol I don't have an issue hitting them up, but I also did Computer Science and am not into gaming and anime as much as the circle of friends I made so it made sense we stopped talking as I had other interests.
My wife did nursing and has one friend from college, coincidentally it wasn't someone in nursing, but she did mention everyone in her nursing program just made small cliques like you mentioned, which made it hard to approach.
Most of our friends are from work/highschool/childhood
My wife did nursing and has one friend from college, coincidentally it wasn't someone in nursing, but she did mention everyone in her nursing program just made small cliques like you mentioned, which made it hard to approach.
Most of our friends are from work/highschool/childhood
I still keep in touch with a lot of my fraternity brothers over 30 years later. Outside of that, I only keep in touch with one or two people from college. Haters always say joining a fraternity is just "buying" friends but if that's the case, its one of the best purchases I ever made.
I wound up getting work in my college town a few years after finishing undergrad, as did many of my friends there, so many of us are still good friends.
Join some extracurricular groups, meet people. I still keep in touch with a ton of college people almost 20 years later but most of them arent people i had class with
I came to regard them as people I'd met.
I never kept in touch with any of them, in other words.
I never kept in touch with any of them, in other words.
I recommend it. When we moved to Chicago I made lots of friends through work since I had similar aged colleagues, but that wasn't the case here in Texas and I ended up making a lot of good friends in Austin through the supporters club for Man City. Close friendships are often formed via shared interests, so this is a natural gateway to it as you've seen with your friends from middle school.
I find that friends you make in class while in college were often transactional.. hey can I borrow the notes, do you want to group up on this project, etc. Obviously that isn't always the case, but I fell out of touch with most of those people. They're more like wish them a HBD once a year on Facebook and that's it.
I've kept in touch with exactly one person. He's a guy I met at my first retail job. We later worked together at a healthcare clinic. We are now at two different buildings in the same company so we email maybe twice a week.
Some of my closest friends are those I made in college in America and Japan. I talk to several of them on through voice calls a few times a month and text them even more. I talked to one last night for an hour and a half and woke up to messages from him. One of my other closest friends I frequently have long calls with (once or twice a week), and she and I were talking for almost four hours several nights ago. I send them birthday/christmas gifts and play video games with a few more.
I play videogames everyday with my college friends (we graduated 2-3 years ago), that is still my biggest friend group. we are around 10-12 and we usually go to pubs together or BBQs.
I also still talk with my best (female) friend from high school like 3-4 days per week and we used to drink every time we could.
I also still talk with my best (female) friend from high school like 3-4 days per week and we used to drink every time we could.
I made a few of my best life-long friends in university, but I also had plenty of people I was friendly with for a semester or two when we were in the same classes that I lost touch with after. I generally stayed friends with people I actually had a strong connection with, and the rest were just circumstantial.
Several of my best friends are from college, others from grad school, and others from my career. All my childhood or high school friends have fallen away, though.
Me, no, but that's because I was a commuter. I showed up to class, did my work, studied/homework, and left. I had so much going on during that time of my life that I didn't have time to get to know anyone.
A friend if mine tried to keep up with a few people, but I'd say it seemed like they ghosted him after a couple years. He was also a commuter, but lived and worked close to campus. Most of his wife's friends are from college that she still speaks to, sees once in a while, and is invited to weddings years later. She lived on campus and was in various clubs.
A friend if mine tried to keep up with a few people, but I'd say it seemed like they ghosted him after a couple years. He was also a commuter, but lived and worked close to campus. Most of his wife's friends are from college that she still speaks to, sees once in a while, and is invited to weddings years later. She lived on campus and was in various clubs.
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My two best friends are from college. But I only attended that school for a year. I don't keep in contact with anyone I had classes with at my transfer school, which was for about three years. By then I already had a good friend group and it was a commuter school, so just different social environment. And my major didn't really have a "cohort" or any sort of activities to bring us together as a class.
We'll see what happens with the friends I've made in graduate school. Definitely feel closer to them than the people I knew in undergrad. But it's much more cohort based.
We'll see what happens with the friends I've made in graduate school. Definitely feel closer to them than the people I knew in undergrad. But it's much more cohort based.
I'm the very opposite OP. I don't talk to ANYONE from Middle School and High School.
I have a few core friends from College, and more from post-College life.
I have a few core friends from College, and more from post-College life.
Still keep in touch daily with six guys I went to college with, though I met a few of them before college. I see three of them regularly and the others a few times a year. That was part of a larger friend group I don't keep up with much anymore. Some people just drifted with time, some dated other people in the circle and faded out after breaking up etc. I still see some of them on occasion, maybe around town if they live here or around the holidays, but the ones I keep in touch with have been my closest friends for 15 years now.
It's my closest high school friends that I don't keep in touch with at all. Last time I saw one of them was 2-3 years ago at a restaurant one of them opened and it was fun to catch up, but for all the others it's been more than a decade since I spoke with them.
It's my closest high school friends that I don't keep in touch with at all. Last time I saw one of them was 2-3 years ago at a restaurant one of them opened and it was fun to catch up, but for all the others it's been more than a decade since I spoke with them.
I met my wife in college but other than her and a friend I have known since elementary school, I don't associate with anyone I went to college or university with.
Yep, used to invite them to my house every week before COVID.
I knew our friendship would deteriorate if we didn't have a place to get together, so I invited them to my house and tried my best to have a welcoming, fun environment.
Not everyone wanted to stay and I was more than happy to know that this weekly gathering weeded out the ''friends'' who were only with us because they didn't have anyone else.
As time goes by, your friends who are enjoying this little rendezvous will ask if they could bring their best friends as well, so it even things out I guess.
I knew our friendship would deteriorate if we didn't have a place to get together, so I invited them to my house and tried my best to have a welcoming, fun environment.
Not everyone wanted to stay and I was more than happy to know that this weekly gathering weeded out the ''friends'' who were only with us because they didn't have anyone else.
As time goes by, your friends who are enjoying this little rendezvous will ask if they could bring their best friends as well, so it even things out I guess.
I've been out of college for years and I still meet up with friends from college regularly. They're close friends really now.
I met my wife in college, but we didn't start dating until after graduation. One of my best friends was my sophomore year roommate, and my wife and I are his kid's godparents. We're very close with a lot of my wife's college housemates to this day.
Yes, I seem to stay good friends with a few from each stage in life (primary, secondary schools, uni and work) even though we might not live on the same city, country or even continent anymore. From university, it's all friends from an interest group though, people I have made short films with.
Yes. I don't care about anyone from high school anymore but my good college friends I hope to keep in touch with for life.
Absolutely. I have weekly/bi-weekly Korean drama-watching or online board game sessions w/ my college friends.
Only 4, of them but they're among my favorite treasures.
Also this (but grad school).
Only 4, of them but they're among my favorite treasures.
Also this (but grad school).
I still sporadically keep in touch with 2 people from uni. Been almost two decades. We're all lazy about keeping in touch but one of them is better at it then me and always organises things
Just two, my partner of 8 years who I met in college way back when, and one of my best friends, who I also met in the same program.
Absolutely. 6 of my 7 best friends are from college and the last is from high school who hung out with all of my college crew all the time. Howard University. Street Fighter. Samurai Showdown. School of Communication film/art. Brothers for life 30 years later. No Fraternity. Just nerds.
Same here.
It's not a frequent as it used to be we visit and hang out on rare occasions.
Now high school has been completely obliterated from my life.
I never hung out with any I made in class. Aside from social media. I did get invited to a couple parties, but I couldn't make them.
Most friends were made outside of class.
Most friends were made outside of class.