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Do you have a crush on someone at work?
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Haha I meant that if I'd listened to doubting voices, I never would have gone for it and it would have been the biggest mistake of my life.
People always say don't date people at work... but if the company is big enough that they're working in departments that never interact with you, does this rule really apply?
I'm a student. Dunno if that counts, I had one over the summer lol. Then school started back up, we had breakfast once, and she never initiated a conversation with me after that except to ask about schoolwork.
I took the hint and my feelings kind of fizzled out, then she told me about the guy she has a crush on lol
I took the hint and my feelings kind of fizzled out, then she told me about the guy she has a crush on lol
My work environment is really strange. Everybody I've worked with in the last 3 years have been 20-35 years old, 15 people at a time, and the sexual tension is immense. I'm pretty sure ever person I've worked with there, that hasn't been in a relationship, has slept with a co-worker. And people talk about it, everybody shares personal stuff often. Thad said I don't have a crush and I'm in a happy relationship but I'm pretty sure something would happen with one of my co-worker if we weren't both in relationships.
I very recently switched jobs and asked a former co-worker out, she said yes. Going on a date after I return from christmas break. So fingers crossed.
At my new work, no. 95% of my co-workers in my age range are men.
At my new work, no. 95% of my co-workers in my age range are men.
Lmfao. Yes. And I found out at our company Christmas party last night that the feeling is quite mutual. God bless wine, I guess.
I did. Very unlike me, it turned out we had a great time. Very like me, she was already on the way to getting another job elsewhere so it didn't last.
Yeah that's kind of my question. There are a couple of people at my work I find attractive I would call a crush but it's nothing more than that and certainly no feelings involved.
I feel like this is not good advice. Companies come in many sizes with varying orgs.
I know of many marriages that have resulted from work relationships. Most of those still working at the same company.A good company will just ensure those resources don't report to one another
Side note my wife and I used to work at the same company.
Yes, and he's straight because of course I had to fall for another straight guy. Plus, he's now my supervisor, so I have to see him every day when I really wanted to try to move on from it.
wow thanks, Jesus
wow thanks, Jesus
I now work in an office with just one other person, which happens to be a very attractive girl who I really get on with.
She's like a sister to me, so no, I don't have a crush on her. I can appreciate that she's pretty, but we both have partners already that we love dearly.
She's like a sister to me, so no, I don't have a crush on her. I can appreciate that she's pretty, but we both have partners already that we love dearly.
Just this week I've ran into two people I hadn't seen in years- one I didn't even know still worked there. Earlier this year, I ran into one who I hadn't seen in like three years.
It can cause problems though. I avoided an entire part of a building after having a falling out with someone, and I'm certain they would never work there again unless they knew I left and wasn't coming back. Even the slight chance of interaction is enough to cause problems, and my job requires interaction with a lot of people.
Yes. There has never been a day I didn't find this one particular co-worker highly attractive (she fits my type to a tee). Plus I vibe with her personality a lot, which doesn't help quell the feelings.
No, i have legit never thought of anyone in my current work in a romantic or sexual way.
I had a work crush once, but i was very young.
I had a work crush once, but i was very young.
Yes, I do, she in my workgroup. But I think a lot of the other guy like her too. Tonight was one of the hardest night, because she bend down maybe a few inches away from me. But I will never broke my rule of about dating coworkers
Ehh I wouldn't call it a crush. She flirts and I flirt back. She's my type but I doubt it'd work out so unless she makes a move to escalate I probably won't act on it.
No.
1) I work in a place where I enjoy what I do but I don't like the larger culture that surrounds it, and the kind of majority personalities that it attracts.
2) In my line of work, there's definitely a risk that you can carry some real stress back home with you, and I don't want someone who has been through the same experiences because it makes it a little too intense. It's easier for me to have someone that I can digest it to without knowing what it's quite like, because I always fear if I had to share it with someone who knew what it was like first-hand, there'd be a risk of it just turning into a spiraling negative feedback loop with neither of us really getting past it.
With those two things in mind, I very strictly try to separate my personal and work lives. Dating someone from work is the absolutely most invasive way to let my work life back into my personal life.
1) I work in a place where I enjoy what I do but I don't like the larger culture that surrounds it, and the kind of majority personalities that it attracts.
2) In my line of work, there's definitely a risk that you can carry some real stress back home with you, and I don't want someone who has been through the same experiences because it makes it a little too intense. It's easier for me to have someone that I can digest it to without knowing what it's quite like, because I always fear if I had to share it with someone who knew what it was like first-hand, there'd be a risk of it just turning into a spiraling negative feedback loop with neither of us really getting past it.
With those two things in mind, I very strictly try to separate my personal and work lives. Dating someone from work is the absolutely most invasive way to let my work life back into my personal life.
No, no crushes. If I did have one, I would never act on it, because I'm very happily married and would never intentionally fuck it up by betraying my wife's trust.
Now, that's not to say that there aren't some women in the office who make me think "DAMN" when they walk in the door. I'm married...not dead. But nothing that would qualify as a "crush."
Right. 2 of our close friends are married and met at their company. One is an engineer, one is an accountant, and they worked in different offices. So, if things didn't work out, there wouldn't have been much awkwardness.
Now, that's not to say that there aren't some women in the office who make me think "DAMN" when they walk in the door. I'm married...not dead. But nothing that would qualify as a "crush."
Right. 2 of our close friends are married and met at their company. One is an engineer, one is an accountant, and they worked in different offices. So, if things didn't work out, there wouldn't have been much awkwardness.
Yeah when i was like 20...we slept once even and then she thought it was too awkward to go to work when i was there so she changed her schedule....i just laughed.
Chases my coworker. We are engaged to be married. Worked for us but I don't recommend it for anyone
Haha same here, except mine is married. Luckily i ended it cause i found my current gf, but man, it was the most fun ive had. The adrenaline and everyone suspecting but not saying anything.
I tried it a long time ago and it didn't end well. So no dating co-workers for me.
At my previous job I got interested in a co-worker almost from the start. We got along great and there was chemistry but she was in relationship. Then come this summer and she's separated and single again. Some of our co-workers tried to set us up together but both of us has a no-coworker rule (explicitly stated when everyone prodded us to go on a date).
Funny thing, this autumn I switched jobs and now we're dating.
At my previous job I got interested in a co-worker almost from the start. We got along great and there was chemistry but she was in relationship. Then come this summer and she's separated and single again. Some of our co-workers tried to set us up together but both of us has a no-coworker rule (explicitly stated when everyone prodded us to go on a date).
Funny thing, this autumn I switched jobs and now we're dating.
Heh, we planned to "come out" at the christmas party but decided against it because it would not have felt right. In the end I think most people don't care and respect the privacy. Thats how I feel about other company couples as well.
There's someone who I think I kinda do but also I think she's a lesbian. But also I might be a trans girl. But also I don't think she'd like me even if I transitioned. But I don't really have any interest in dating a coworker anyways. But also it doesn't really matter because I'm dating someone else and there are other people in my life I'd rather date even if that doesn't turn out.
Oh gawd yes. I happened to be randomly watching Chicago Fire and just to give you an idea what she looks like it's almost exactly like Kara Killmer.
I'm glad I dont work with anyone I'd ever think to try to become romantically involved with. That sounds like a major headache. And that's before the inevitable breakup.
Fell pretty hard for a coworker during an internship abroad but didn't act on it, as she was in a long term relationship at the time. We were the only Italians (and foreigners in general) in a Dutch speaking practice, that made very easy to have a lot of complicity and form a bond.
