I didn't. But my wife sure did, with a friend who we knew for 8 years, who was also married. They apparently both had crushes on each other. And now I'm getting a divorce because my wife discovered she loved him too, and they just had to be together no matter fucking what.
Yup. Learned about it 12/1/19, went to work the next day, Monday, and went to the hospital the next morning due to a panic attack and other things and was in for 2 days. Divorce wasn't discussed right away, she wanted to be in an open relationship with both of us, which even right then I knew I didn't want. I had to move out and get a new place because she would have moved out from where we were staying and it would have been a lot harder for me to pay that by myself.
Yup. Learned about it 12/1/19, went to work the next day, Monday, and went to the hospital the next morning due to a panic attack and other things and was in for 2 days. Divorce wasn't discussed right away, she wanted to be in an open relationship with both of us, which even right then I knew I didn't want. I had to move out and get a new place because she would have moved out from where we were staying and it would have been a lot harder for me to pay that by myself.
Don't be worried about having human feelings.Please tell me I am not alone. I get them on occasion. I get worried about them sometimes.
wowI have a completely one sided crush on my wife's best friend. Both my wife and her friend are aware of it and joke about it constantly.
Yeah I feel the same. The more you fight this natural habit, the more it's actually an issue for yourself and the more you make it to an issue for the relationship as a whole.
Accept it, maybe even fantasize about it even - because why not, but if possible don't act on it if you didn't decide anything in that way with your SO at first. You either communicate this in advance or you shouldn't have gone that far anyway with the relationship. General rule of thumb is "when in doubt, rub it out". As soon as you masturbated, the feeling is gone, right? *leaning far out of the window*
The short term fancy will go away too with time. Nothing special really. Just ask yourself what you would do the instant you both finished having sex. Because mostly that's when it's getting awkward anyway and the other isn't your SO.
We have a german word, "schmunzeln", which isn't quite the same as smiling, because it has some sort of mmm, second thoughts behind it, mostly fun or pervert related (hehe), which I always do when those things happen. Maybe smirking? I make my fun of it, but then I go my way. Funny hehe.
I have a completely one sided crush on my wife's best friend. Both my wife and her friend are aware of it and joke about it constantly.
This is amazing.I have a completely one sided crush on my wife's best friend. Both my wife and her friend are aware of it and joke about it constantly.
I'll do you one better and say you can even love more than one person at a time. A marriage that works is not one without temptations or feelings for other people, it's one where you choose to be with one person over all the others.
What do you think a crush is? Writing their name inside a heart in your algebra notebook?
I am pretty drunk. I have communicated in the past, and it's more or else a response of, "eh, it happens". I just feel like it should not happen.
I have a completely one sided crush on my wife's best friend. Both my wife and her friend are aware of it and joke about it constantly.
I have a completely one sided crush on my wife's best friend. Both my wife and her friend are aware of it and joke about it constantly.
Holy shit, I would watch a RomCom about this, this sounds hilarious but possibly rough for you.
There's no should or shouldn't happen in feelings, mate.I am pretty drunk. I have communicated in the past, and it's more or else a response of, "eh, it happens". I just feel like it should not happen.
Words to live by.Yeah, and that's why you never get too drunk at corporate holiday parties.
I'll do you one better and say you can even love more than one person at a time. A marriage that works is not one without temptations or feelings for other people, it's one where you choose to be with one person over all the others.
Finding some attractive is not a crush. A crush is developing feelings of wanting to be with someone.A crush doesn't have to be romantic. In five years you've never looked at another woman and thought--"Damn. She's attractive." I feel like that's why OP is describing.