Alright I'm not sure if this post has a point. It's mostly a vent and maybe people who have had similar experiences can chime in.
My girlfriend will very likely move to another state for a new job by the end of the month or early next month. I don't see us moving forward into a long-distance relationship, so we will probably end things when she moves. We've only talked about this once a couple of months ago and she didn't think we could or should have an LDR. We're in a better place now in our relationship, but I'm saving myself from imminent disappointment by considering that I will be single again soon.
I'm in two minds about this; it really sucks that we will have to end it like this when both of us are still very much into each other, but on the other hand our online communication isn't great sometimes, and I fear that an LDR would just delay the inevitable and our relationship would fizzle out due to distance and lack of communication. So in a sense it might be for the better if we end things amicably now and go our separate ways, but in some other sense I feel bad because I like her and the relationship hasn't run its course with a traditional breakup.
I knew what I was getting myself into since we started dating early April while she was finishing up her masters, and after that she would be on the lookout for jobs so that she would move out by the end of summer. That didn't happen since job searching is hard and soul-crushing, but still I knew things would probably end soon. I went ahead and got together with her anyway since we liked each other, it was my first relationship (had a lot of "firsts" in dating life here) and I don't regret one bit of it. I got more attached than I thought I would over time, or maybe I just got used to her being around me all the time, since we spent almost the entire summer together, doing things outside or hanging out in each other's apartment.
It doesn't sound much since by the time she leaves the relationship would have lasted about 6 months, and I'm sure people break up due to moving all the time. It was however my first relationship and I consider it important despite its length. I wonder if I will go through the typical stages of dealing with a breakup, and I wonder how I will handle being alone again. My apartment will certainly get much quieter. Anyone gone through something similar?
