Sucks having to bring personal issues here, but always found good information and ways to cope with situations others have already dealt with.
My ex-wife and I have been split up almost 2 years from a 10 year relationship (3 years dating, 7 married) due to her cheating. We've have some challenges since the split, but always put the kids first. Things got a little difficult last year when her mom passed away, I tried giving her more time with the kids like she wanted and she lashed out at me with mixed emotions, threatened to call the cops on me, and resulted in us doing everything apart including things with the kids. She's out dating again and found someone, which good for her, but she was forcing the kids to keep it a secret even though I knew. This causes a new set of issues and we decided to go to lunch to air out the situation.
During the lunch, we talked about the issues, came to an agreement things needed to improve for both our sake and the best interest for the kids, and then she drops a bomb on me. She's now pregnant with this guy she's been dating for a few months and he will be moving in with her. The pregnancy is early, but it reopened some sensitive emotions, but again it's her life that she's moving on with. and I expressed that I hope for the best for them.
My issue now I'm dealing with is coping with the fact my kids will now have a stepdad in their life. I have a great bond with my kids, always doing everything I can with them with my time and go through great strides to make sure they have everything they need. I'm starting to panic inside and my mind is racing that there's a new guy moving into their life and I don't know how to handle it. I've always said I'd be a great stepdad if I enter a relationship with a woman with kids, but never thought about how I would take it on the flip side. I've met the guy once and was very respectful to him, but he's 25, 9 years younger than me and I don't know how to take that. I'm guessing this is normal, but do I talk with him on the side and explain my morals, try to be friends with him? Anyone else have to deal with this have any tips on how to approach this situation? I laid in bed all night tossing and turning not knowing how to handle the thought of this.
My ex-wife and I have been split up almost 2 years from a 10 year relationship (3 years dating, 7 married) due to her cheating. We've have some challenges since the split, but always put the kids first. Things got a little difficult last year when her mom passed away, I tried giving her more time with the kids like she wanted and she lashed out at me with mixed emotions, threatened to call the cops on me, and resulted in us doing everything apart including things with the kids. She's out dating again and found someone, which good for her, but she was forcing the kids to keep it a secret even though I knew. This causes a new set of issues and we decided to go to lunch to air out the situation.
During the lunch, we talked about the issues, came to an agreement things needed to improve for both our sake and the best interest for the kids, and then she drops a bomb on me. She's now pregnant with this guy she's been dating for a few months and he will be moving in with her. The pregnancy is early, but it reopened some sensitive emotions, but again it's her life that she's moving on with. and I expressed that I hope for the best for them.
My issue now I'm dealing with is coping with the fact my kids will now have a stepdad in their life. I have a great bond with my kids, always doing everything I can with them with my time and go through great strides to make sure they have everything they need. I'm starting to panic inside and my mind is racing that there's a new guy moving into their life and I don't know how to handle it. I've always said I'd be a great stepdad if I enter a relationship with a woman with kids, but never thought about how I would take it on the flip side. I've met the guy once and was very respectful to him, but he's 25, 9 years younger than me and I don't know how to take that. I'm guessing this is normal, but do I talk with him on the side and explain my morals, try to be friends with him? Anyone else have to deal with this have any tips on how to approach this situation? I laid in bed all night tossing and turning not knowing how to handle the thought of this.