I can't even begin to unpack all of this. But I think you need to take step back and think about how you look at women and people in general.I went through this after being in an LTR.
Its stress and performance anxiety.
I got out of an LTR and had an old HS girlfriend hit me up on Facebook. She was chubby, had kids etc.. I banged her silly cause I gave zero fucks. I was 'above' her in my head and I felt like she was the lucky I was even sleeping with her.
The next month I start dating a model and my dick stays hard in my pants or during oral sex but the minute before sex it goes limp..
My heads thinking "Will I be good enough?" "Does she think I'm small?" "I wonder if shes had better/bigger?" etc..
When in reality you should be thinking "I am a sex god and I'm about to slay your vagina with my massive dong!!"
Its all about confidence.
I recommend a book called "No More Mr. Nice Guy"
Excerpt:
"Nice Guys have issues with sexuality. Though most Nice Guys deny having problems with sex, I have yet to meet one who isn't either dissatisfied with his sex life, has a sexual dysfunction (can't get or
maintain an erection, climaxes too quickly), or has sexually acted out (through affairs, prostitution, pornography, compulsive masturbation, etc.)."
You would be amazed at the growing number of men suffering from ED and low testosterone due to the stigma of "masculinity".
You think 100 years ago 30ish year old men couldnt get a boner?
They had some red meat for dinner, worked like dogs, and gave zero fucks what a woman wanted or thought.
Now we are a breed of pudgy men jacking off and seeing 10 inch dicks, drinking soy lattes, playing Call of Duty, debating Star Wars movies and reading Buzzfeed articles on how you need to go down on your girlfriend for 45min.
Do some compound lifts every other day, dont eat processed food, take L-Arginine/Zinc/Maca/Tribulus supplements (focus on T boosting/libido/blood flow)
and just be confident. Think "Im a man, my cock is amazing, I'm about to destroy this vage, and give zero fucks."
Realize a woman is hardly ever into you for your looks or sex. Most relationships with bad sex are usually the man leaving/cheating, women stick around through bad sex cause you have a good job, make them laugh etc.. They usually expect bad sex lol Most guys..are TERRIBLE in bed. Almost every woman Ive ever talked to expects sex at the start with a man to be awkward, quick, unfulfilled for them. Most of them go on for YEARS in a relationship and never having an orgasm. Get confident and once you over come your sexual issues start trying to improve your sexual abilities with her.
Also, remember..Your job is choreographing the sex and hers is to say yes or no. No woman wants to hear "Um..yeah..um..so..um..can I, ya know, um..have you..um..flip ah..over?"
Even if you dont make them cum or dont last long most enjoy a guy who flips them, tosses them around, goes for the finger in the butt with out a 3 page written consent form. They say no, dont, stop, then you dont..till then be the star slash director of your own movie.
Plus..(and some will say not to do this, but Ive had 100% success rate)
You can go online and buy cheap/weak Viagra from India..
I paid about $200 for 500 "weak" (they say 100mg but are like 25mg) Viagra from India.
If I'm drinking or stressed...if my girlfriend is playing grab ass and I know shes gonna want sex after I worked a 16 hour day..
I just pop 2 of them and 60min later you have a boner that is BEGGING you to use it.
You would be amazed at the growing number of men suffering from ED and low testosterone due to the stigma of "masculinity".
Think "Im a man, my cock is amazing, I'm about to destroy this vage, and give zero fucks."
Now we are a breed of pudgy men jacking off and seeing 10 inch dicks, drinking soy lattes, playing Call of Duty, debating Star Wars movies and reading Buzzfeed articles on how you need to go down on your girlfriend for 45min.
Again, with those hot generalisations. Plenty of Era have rad sex lives, I'm sure. We're just...people.Holy hell.
This is not the place to ask, majority of posters dont have regular sex or never have at all.
Asking Era/GAF for sex advice is like asking Donald Trump for foreign relations advice.
Look at Lateralus post above. That alone should proof that the majority of Era members haven't a fucking clue about sex or women.
Breh. What? I'm a year younger than that and I've been masturbating for 10 years.Truth be told, I didn't figure out how to masturbate properly until I was like 22
I can't even begin to unpack all of this. But I think you need to take step back and think about how you look at women and people in general.
Jesus christ.
Dude Ive read the sex topics on NeoGAF for years. Of course theres members with normal healthy sex lives. But theres a ls a high amount of people who clearly dont.Again, with those hot generalisations. Plenty of Era have rad sex lives, I'm sure. We're just...people.
I find that those who make snide comments about other people apparently having no sex live or cracking 'lol virgin' jokes are the real ones not getting any. Projection is an ugly son of a botch.Again, with those hot generalisations. Plenty of Era have rad sex lives, I'm sure. We're just...people.
Again, with those hot generalisations. Plenty of Era have rad sex lives, I'm sure. We're just...people.
I find that those who make snide comments about other people apparently having no sex live or cracking 'lol virgin' jokes are the real ones not getting any. Projection is an ugly son of a botch.
I went through this after being in an LTR.
Its stress and performance anxiety.
I got out of an LTR and had an old HS girlfriend hit me up on Facebook. She was chubby, had kids etc.. I banged her silly cause I gave zero fucks. I was 'above' her in my head and I felt like she was the lucky I was even sleeping with her.
The next month I start dating a model and my dick stays hard in my pants or during oral sex but the minute before sex it goes limp..
My heads thinking "Will I be good enough?" "Does she think I'm small?" "I wonder if shes had better/bigger?" etc..
When in reality you should be thinking "I am a sex god and I'm about to slay your vagina with my massive dong!!"
Its all about confidence.
I recommend a book called "No More Mr. Nice Guy"
Excerpt:
"Nice Guys have issues with sexuality. Though most Nice Guys deny having problems with sex, I have yet to meet one who isn't either dissatisfied with his sex life, has a sexual dysfunction (can't get or
maintain an erection, climaxes too quickly), or has sexually acted out (through affairs, prostitution, pornography, compulsive masturbation, etc.)."
You would be amazed at the growing number of men suffering from ED and low testosterone due to the stigma of "masculinity".
You think 100 years ago 30ish year old men couldnt get a boner?
They had some red meat for dinner, worked like dogs, and gave zero fucks what a woman wanted or thought.
Now we are a breed of pudgy men jacking off and seeing 10 inch dicks, drinking soy lattes, playing Call of Duty, debating Star Wars movies and reading Buzzfeed articles on how you need to go down on your girlfriend for 45min.
Do some compound lifts every other day, dont eat processed food, take L-Arginine/Zinc/Maca/Tribulus supplements (focus on T boosting/libido/blood flow)
and just be confident. Think "Im a man, my cock is amazing, I'm about to destroy this vage, and give zero fucks."
Realize a woman is hardly ever into you for your looks or sex. Most relationships with bad sex are usually the man leaving/cheating, women stick around through bad sex cause you have a good job, make them laugh etc.. They usually expect bad sex lol Most guys..are TERRIBLE in bed. Almost every woman Ive ever talked to expects sex at the start with a man to be awkward, quick, unfulfilled for them. Most of them go on for YEARS in a relationship and never having an orgasm. Get confident and once you over come your sexual issues start trying to improve your sexual abilities with her.
Also, remember..Your job is choreographing the sex and hers is to say yes or no. No woman wants to hear "Um..yeah..um..so..um..can I, ya know, um..have you..um..flip ah..over?"
Even if you dont make them cum or dont last long most enjoy a guy who flips them, tosses them around, goes for the finger in the butt with out a 3 page written consent form. They say no, dont, stop, then you dont..till then be the star slash director of your own movie.
Plus..(and some will say not to do this, but Ive had 100% success rate)
You can go online and buy cheap/weak Viagra from India..
I paid about $200 for 500 "weak" (they say 100mg but are like 25mg) Viagra from India.
If I'm drinking or stressed...if my girlfriend is playing grab ass and I know shes gonna want sex after I worked a 16 hour day..
I just pop 2 of them and 60min later you have a boner that is BEGGING you to use it.
As others have said, it might be best to see a therapist about this.
If you don't work out; start. Run, lift, do HIIT workouts, whatever. A regular workout routine will make you more confident AND lower your stress levels.
If you don't give her oral, start. Contrary to popular belief, it does NOT take an hour to bring a woman to orgasm from cunnilingus (not usually, anyway). Read some books on the subject. I haven't read this one, but it's hugely popular: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0060538260/?tag=era0f0-20
Also OP, don't listen to any of this.....at all.
Not a dossier. I used to talk to him on GAF about his eating habits. It's not like I brought it up randomly. Mega is nice guy but he needs more help beyond a message board. Seems like it's all a big pattern.From whatever is going on with Lateralus to entrement having a dossier on OP's caloric intake I almost choked on my weed. Good thread.
As a girl once told me..
"If all I wanted was to get my pussy eaten, Id go lesbian"
So, keep telling this guy to keep eating pussy and not worrying about the real problem...his lack of confidence about his sexual ability.
Hes gonna be going down on her so much shes gonna hop on the first 10min of dick that bangs her sideways and gives zero fucks if she cums lol
Nah. Having a workable memory is not a dossier, bro lol. Nice try, though.
Holy hell.
This is not the place to ask, majority of posters dont have regular sex or never have at all.
Asking Era/GAF for sex advice is like asking Donald Trump for foreign relations advice.
Look at Lateralus post above. That alone should proof that the majority of Era members haven't a fucking clue about sex or women.
Think "Im a man, my cock is amazing, I'm about to destroy this vage, and give zero fucks." [...] Even if you dont make them cum or dont last long most enjoy a guy who flips them, tosses them around, goes for the finger in the butt with out a 3 page written consent form. They say no, dont, stop, then you dont..till then be the star slash director of your own movie.
Only trying to share my tips/tricks.
I dabble in the swinging community (mostly we just like to be watched)
And before that was heavy into the BDSM community.
Admittedly, I do have sexual addiction issues. Not porn tho, just a penchant for random encounters over the years. Going to bars or using online means I've kinda perfected an art to end a night with meaningless sex.
And I'm up front and open talking sexually with women. So, at the same time I take what they have told me an apply it.
It works..I dont suggest it if your "looking for love!"
Nah. Having a workable memory is not a dossier, bro lol. Nice try, though.
Bro, I was joshing with you lol. Shit talking. I guess it's hard to tell online. The "lols" are the tells for future exchanges :)Yeah, yeah. Mega is the dude from the west coast yet loves New England; works in shipping but is disillusioned etc. So if you're intent on ruining our exchange now I have a dossier too, k?
How is it that all we did was change bookmarks yet almost everyone got a stick up their ass in the exchange? Goddamn Creamium.
Honestly it just sounds like performance anxiety. You mentally block yourself and overthink when you're in bed with a woman because of all the pressure.
Tell your GF the full truth and keep trying.
I seriously have to wonder how these guys even ended up here lol. Like I think the overlap between our demographic and 4chan has got to be pretty low.If I had written this all as a Cosmo article and made it about reversed the sexes...it would be fine.
Its why dating books are written by women mostly and both focus on "Catering to women" or "Making her the Prize"
If you discuss anything in a Pro-Masculine way and try to help men be better sexually or obtain sex its labeled "Misogynistic".
Its like a dirty word to tell men to reclaim theyre male sexual side, to be hunters again.
The truth is a dirty word when focused on making better, more masculine, sexually dominant..
So you have legions of out of shape men not sexually capable, not sexually fulfilling to women, and stuck in bad sex situations cause they are more worried about pleasuring their partner then getting the sex they want.
Guys will spend 40min going down on a girl, using toys etc.. but be to weak to wamt the same back.
They have scarcity mentality..they think "Oh no! I better worry about her more then myself or what I want cause who knows when and if I'll get another girl to sleep with me!"
Face it...theirs a lot of soft men who would want nothing more then to get that sloppy gagging deep throat BJ like they see in porn..but they are scared to make it happen but will bury there face in their wifes/gf's vage for 40 min.
Trust me... theres a boat load of guys who are "givers" whos wifes/gf are gonna ask for a separation/break cause even tho you went out and bought that Hitachi she wants to go out and get 10min of gorrila sex from some dude who gives zero fucks if she cums but wants to feel dominated/used..
Might want to look at your diet. I remember you were eating a very low calorie diet from your posts on NeoGAF. That's is not good for sexual performance at all.
But go to a doctor and have them do a thorough check up. They should definitely ask about your eating and sleeping habits.
Those first times your dong was touched. Was that consensual? Am I reading something between the lines?
Holy hell.
This is not the place to ask, majority of posters dont have regular sex or never have at all.
Asking Era/GAF for sex advice is like asking Donald Trump for foreign relations advice.
Look at Lateralus post above. That alone should proof that the majority of Era members haven't a fucking clue about sex or women.
I would say I've had a pretty sex-negative life. I was hoping to correct it with this relationship, but the cycle continues.
All contact has been consensual though.
Not gonna lie. All of that one dude's post did strike an insecurity