100% right.No one has said cheat isn't bad. Cheating IS bad.
Basically my thoughts, I haven't been here for long but I've noticed a lot of vindictive bloodthirstiness in a lot of discussions that makes me a little sad. Cheating is bad. No one is saying it isn't. It's cruel, extremely selfish and potentially permanently mentally damaging. But if we wished eternal misery on every person that's ever cheated or broke someone's heart the world would be fucked. OP fucked up, OP knows he fucked up, OP isn't trying to excuse his way out of the situation nor from what I could see elicit sympathy. OP wanted advice, he got some that I hope he will take to heart. Attacking him won't fix a fucking thing, it won't make OP a better person and it won't make society better as a whole, it's just petty vengeance to give yourself a justice boner while you tear someone down.
Thanks, I'll go drive home now. She's finally asleep and no more crying. Needed to hear the hard truth tonight. I'm going to invest in some therapy because I think I need it.
I'm addicted to sex.
Y'all are rough as hell but it's much needed.
It's not semantics when you are projecting cheating to be equal to stuff not near that level at all that other people might have done.Making a mistake inherently means you've done something wrong, this seems like semantics.
Maybe it's not satisfaction and just being digusted by something like cheating?100% right.
That's one reason why I don't discuss much on this side of the forum. People really look to tear others down too much just for their own satisfaction. Shit's lame.
don't beat yourself up over it bro. work on your flaws before trying to salvage that relationship
You should have played it straight, since you weren't in a commited relationship you can see who you want.
Yeah, technically, we were in the middle of "working on us" . She's not my official girl but she's my official girl if you know what I mean. Whole shit is complicated man. Just here to vent fuck it
Make a mistake or do something wrong and people will call you a human piece of shit that deserves to live in misery. It's always surprising how little empathy some posters have on social media. It's like some people are just robots that never make mistakes or do things they regret.Okay, what is up with some of these vindictive posts in this thread?
OP knows he fucked up majorly, no need to call him a piece of shit, tell him to fuck off or that he should be miserable... how is that acceptable on Era?
Yea, because speeding or getting into an accident is comparable to cheating.Make a mistake or do something wrong and people will call you a human piece of shit that deserves to live in misery. It's always surprising how little empathy some posters have on social media. It's like some people are just robots that never make mistakes or do things they regret.
No one has said cheat isn't bad. Cheating IS bad.
Basically my thoughts, I haven't been here for long but I've noticed a lot of vindictive bloodthirstiness in a lot of discussions that makes me a little sad. Cheating is bad. No one is saying it isn't. It's cruel, extremely selfish and potentially permanently mentally damaging. But if we wished eternal misery on every person that's ever cheated or broke someone's heart the world would be fucked. OP fucked up, OP knows he fucked up, OP isn't trying to excuse his way out of the situation nor from what I could see elicit sympathy. OP wanted advice, he got some that I hope he will take to heart. Attacking him won't fix a fucking thing, it won't make OP a better person and it won't make society better as a whole, it's just petty vengeance to give yourself a justice boner while you tear someone down.
OP himself is disgusted by his own cheating, said he needs help, admitted he did wrong, wants to improve and opened himself up for advice to strangers because he's feeling horrible about it.Maybe it's not satisfaction and just being digusted by something like cheating?
I thought the same thing reading this thread. I was shocked at how many people fall into a similar situation in real life once you're past being an idealistic, young adult that sees things in black and white. Adult relationships are hard and complicated and shit happens. I agree the same that OP made a mistake, but I honestly feel cheating on your partner is something that happens WAY more than we like to admit. It's like cancer or miscarriage or something - the more you talk about it the more people have personal stories.
I was joking :)The therapy sessions he mentioned are a better way to improve.
They don't want this girl anymore hurt than she is now, there is good reason to be vindictive.OP himself is disgusted by his own cheating, said he needs help, admitted he did wrong, wants to improve and opened himself up for advice to strangers because he's feeling horrible about it.
I don't care how disgusted someone is at cheating, if people see that and still feel the need to be as vindictive as they've been in this thread then that says something else. Shit's lame.
Lack of empathy should be bannable, imo, lol.Make a mistake or do something wrong and people will call you a human piece of shit that deserves to live in misery. It's always surprising how little empathy some posters have on social media. It's like some people are just robots that never make mistakes or do things they regret.
He also said this:OP himself is disgusted by his own cheating, said he needs help, admitted he did wrong, wants to improve and opened himself up for advice to strangers because he's feeling horrible about it.
So maybe some people should stop the tone policing?
Make a mistake or do something wrong and people will call you a human piece of shit that deserves to live in misery. It's always surprising how little empathy some posters have on social media. It's like some people are just robots that never make mistakes or do things they regret.
Downplaying cheating bannable too then.
So you're upset at people being any level of harsh but then turn around and basically tell him not to even feel bad.
Enabling is far worse than blunt words
Then instead of coming aggressively into the thread like you did looking to feel better by tearing into someone that fucked up, be a better person, put your feelings aside for 2 minutes and give the dude advice. You could have said this sentiment in your first post. Something like;Most people here aren't wishing that, but don't want OP to ever go near that girl again, or any until he matures and gets a lot of help. A looooot.
What?They don't want this girl anymore hurt than she is now, there is good reason to be vindictive.
My ex did this to me a few years ago. I would have choked her dead if it wasn't illegal.
Move on Chad.
You're right about all this. We weren't officially together, weren't officially dating, but fuck we were close, and we wanted to. we Were working towards something, and although we weren't officially dating that was made clear. she reacted this way because she caught me red handed after I told her I love her.
My ex did this to me a few years ago. I would have choked her dead if it wasn't illegal.
Move on Chad.
My ex did this to me a few years ago. I would have choked her dead if it wasn't illegal.
Move on Chad.
I mean OP himself said everyone is justified, and he needed tough love. So you are actually wrong.What?
You mean you can't say "you need stay away from her because she's been hurt enough" without being vindictive?
Are you really trying to give an excuse as to why people are being vindictive on this forum? Dawg, are you serious right now?
I wouldn't admit to domestic violence even if it was a hypothetical, BUT THATS MEMy ex did this to me a few years ago. I would have choked her dead if it wasn't illegal.
Move on Chad.
Well it goes with using Incel term like "chad".Now
This is a hella fucked up thing to say
But way to admit to being willing to commit murder I guess
He's an incel or redpiller or whatever the fuck it is, what do you expect?Now
This is a hella fucked up thing to say
But way to admit to being willing to commit murder I guess
He's an incel or redpiller or whatever the fuck it is, what do you expect?
This is yuck. I hope it's exaggerated hyperbole because if not you've got issues that you really should be seeing a counselor for, holding onto this sentiment isn't healthy in the slightest.My ex did this to me a few years ago. I would have choked her dead if it wasn't illegal.
Move on Chad.
Thanks, I'll go drive home now. She's finally asleep and no more crying. Needed to hear the hard truth tonight. I'm going to invest in some therapy because I think I need it.
I'm addicted to sex.
Y'all are rough as hell but it's much needed.