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chubigans

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Oct 25, 2017
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This is the way to apologize. There's a reason why this video has over five million views.

 
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HustleBun

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On the subject of Thrice, who is also my favourite band, there was also 'Broken Lungs' which I'm still not sure if it was written about September 11 or not.
When I first heard the song, I instantly thought it was about 9/11.
Yup, it is. He's spoken about it before. Broken Lungs and Sky Is Falling are meant to compliment each other in much the same way that Daedalus is a follow-up to Melting Point of Wax.

Broken Lungs is about reconciling the heartbreak, horror and sorrow of 9/11 with the refusal to convert those feelings into hatred and racism towards other nations. He has also dabbled in some 9/11 conspiracy think- nothing super crazy but sweeping away of information and details from the general public. The Sky Is Falling is a less somber track, a bit more frantic and covers how politicians used our emotional fragility from 9/11 to fuel the jingoism behind the Iraq war.

The last live show I think I saw was Thrice early this year.
Yep, me too. The Vheissu anniversary tour, my brother went with me and it was incredible. The signed poster is hanging beside me as I type this.

I have no examples but I'm right there with you on Dustin Kensrue, OP. He's my favorite songwriter by a mile. Thrice has been my favorite band for a very long time. Ever since The Illusion of Safety. I really like how he's come around, listening to him on his podcast. Just very open minded. I had no idea about the FBI thing. That's wild.
holy shit Thrice is one of my favorite bands and I had no idea about this. I mean I knew he was super into religion at one point but not like that.
It's so awesome to see more Thrice fans here!

I don't always agree with Dustin's world views but he always comes from a place of compassion. And when someone disagrees with him, as long as it's not associated with bigotry, he always responses with patience, kindness and even "oh that's interesting, maybe I'm wrong. I should read into that".

The Mars Hill thing is wild isn't it? I knew that Dustin denounced their church and left- His involvement with the FBI investigation was something that I learned much later, maybe it wasn't meant to be known initially but there are some fascinating exposes on how Driscoll was brought down. One of them had a list of inside informants and my jaw dropped when I saw Dustin's name high on the list.
 

DjDeathCool

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Oct 28, 2017
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Bismarck, ND
I remember thinking that Louis C.K. wrote an excellent apology for his bullshit and I was looking forward to seeing how he would right his wrongs with his return. Boy, was I wrong about that.
 

Messofanego

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Oct 25, 2017
26,134
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Thought it might be worth making it easy to consume specifically what happens in the stream without people necessarily having to watch: what happens on the stream is that someone in the chat says "Phil you've lost your way" because he's celebrating the Biden win and because he described Trump as an attack on / threat to the fundamentals of democracy in the US. In response to that DeFranco says:

"I think that's a good thing at times [i.e. losing your way]. My way in the past was making false equivalencies and not seeing Donald Trump as the threat to democracy and the threat to decency that he really was... and I regret that. I regret [doing] that in 2016. And I think that this year I've made the choice to go 'I don't care if I'm going to lose subscribers. I don't care if we get bombarded by jackasses who try to carry the president's water.' We're going to do this and I feel very good about that because moreso -- what's more important than trying to maintain a large audience, what's more important than trying to make a lot of money, I think, is trying to make the world a better place -- trying to be a good person. And there are going to be people who hear that and say 'Oh you're a virtue signaler.' But genuinely wanting the world to be a better place -- to want to get someone who denies science, who goes... who said that he's gonna fire Fauci... we're entering a winter that is as bad as Fauci said it was going to be... so I'm proud. And if you think that I've lost my way, I've said it for the past few weeks, the past few months: the door is over there. You don't need to announce your departure. This isn't an airport, and I welcome you to leave. I'm not going to make false equvalencies to make you feel better about bad opinions and things that are not real."

Link to that part of the stream: https://youtu.be/G5OVwhaaUkU?t=395

Another relevant quote: "To those who say 'Phil, you've become biased.' Here's the deal: reality is biased against Donald Trump. Facts are biased against Donald Trump."
Thanks for the transcription! It goes to show how conservative his audience is if he thinks they'd call him a virtual signaler for wanting the world to be a better place. I had wished he had been specific about his past of being a Nazi apologist like towards Milo and others, but maybe another time. Anyway, thanks for the snippet.
 

Kung Fucius

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Jun 28, 2019
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I thought that Eddie Murphy's apology for homophobic comments in his old stand-ups was pretty sincere.
 

Fiction

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Oct 25, 2017
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Jenna Marbles. Did a bunch of bad shit in her early career, became a huge ally, and then when confronted about the shit she did, apologized and left youtube forever.
 
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HustleBun

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Nov 12, 2017
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I remember thinking that Louis C.K. wrote an excellent apology for his bullshit and I was looking forward to seeing how he would right his wrongs with his return. Boy, was I wrong about that.
Yep. I remember feeling relief and hope reading that apology. But my female friends were right when they all smelled the bullshit. They were right.
 

Aprikurt

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Oct 29, 2017
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Rob McElhenny has gone on record to say he regrets the way the show treated a trans character in past episodes of Always Sunny in Philadelphia
"Carmen, who's transgender on the show but we called her something else," McElhenny said. "We referred to [her] in a derogatory term which t the time we didn't recognize was derogatory and that's our own fault and ignorance because we didn't do our homework and reach out to the community to find out. We just assumed it was appropriate to call this person this derogatory term."
The writers could have easily used the excuse that the characters are horrible people and therefore would use derogatory language but they realised that such terms are hurtful no matter the context and managed to steer away from that.
 

SneakyBadger

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Oct 26, 2017
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Jonah Hill seemed genuinely sorry when he used a homophobic slur when insulting a member of the paparazzi trying to photograph his family, but I'm not sure if he did anything to atone with the community beyond his apology.


This is what I came in here to post. He seems genuinely ashamed in the clip, and really he could have easily ignored the whole thing and made no statement.
 

Jokerman

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May 16, 2020
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Not really a celebrity but Young Turk Cenk Uygur has definitely changed political leanings over the years, and apologised for some pretty horrible opinions in the past.
 

logan_cadfgs

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Oct 28, 2017
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What's kinda nuts about Arin being progressive is how much pushback he gets from his Newgrounds-era colleagues. "You lost your sense of humor," etc. Children at play 👶
 

Sunster

The Fallen
Oct 5, 2018
10,012
He's not a mainstream celebrity, but popular YouTuber Philip DeFranco has been very candid about how he's not proud of the person he used to be - how he used to make a lot of shitty edgy jokes, and how he would sit on the fence as a "centrist" on issues to make himself sound "fair" and reach as wide of an audience as he could. Here he is addressing it recently, after a commenter called him out during a livestream after Biden won the election:


wow way back when this guy was the first non MSM "news" source I ever watched. I was a daily viewer (maybe age 17-18) I don't remember quite when I outgrew him but I do remember checking back in with his channel a few years ago and being amazed I ever watched it. I remember him saying he's a libertarian and voting for Gary Johnson during the 2012 election. He also had gun ownership merchandise lol.

uh... what's wrong with sleeping with prostitutes? I don't see any problem with escorts or whatever.
not related to Hugh but it depends where you found said prostitute. For example, people who fly to poor countries with known sex trafficking epidemics, (Thailand, Philippines, etc..) for the sole purpose of paying for sex at the first opportunity? SHITTY people. Bad. Very likely contributing to actual slavery.
 

hjort

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Nov 9, 2017
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Jim Sterling.
Went from sexist, anti-feminist edgy trash to legit ally, and he owns up his past abhorrent behavior.
I too came in here to post Jim. Used to hate the guy, but now I have a great deal of respect for him.
This is kinda pushing it as a "celebrity" but Ryan Davis from Giant Bomb had probably the most legit and heartfelt apology I've ever seen for something like this after he used a gay slur on stream once. He didn't wait for the blowback, he didn't defend his comments in the slightest, he took full responsibility immediately and apologized profusely while still acknowledging that if people didn't forgive him he understood.
Ryan was a bit before my time as a GB fan, so I wasn't aware of this. What was the context for this?

Speaking of Giant Bomb: While this clip isn't a case of someone expressing something shitty intentionally, I still love Alex's reaction. The whole situation is funny, but I also find it great that he's so quick to realize what he's saying, and apologize for it.

 

Kemal86

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Oct 25, 2017
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Not really a celebrity but Young Turk Cenk Uygur has definitely changed political leanings over the years, and apologised for some pretty horrible opinions in the past.

ehhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Cenk is still kind of a dumpster fire. just about different things than he used to be.
 

Jokerman

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May 16, 2020
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ehhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Cenk is still kind of a dumpster fire. just about different things than he used to be.

True, but without him it is arguable that you wouldn't have at least some progressive voices in congress out there e.g. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez, Ilhan Omar etc via Justice Democrats which he was pretty instrumental in founding. He seems to do a lot of good and it is redemption in a way.
 

thesoapster

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Oct 25, 2017
6,908
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Jenna Marbles. Did a bunch of bad shit in her early career, became a huge ally, and then when confronted about the shit she did, apologized and left youtube forever.

I used to watch her stuff a long time ago (missed the bad shit, apparently). I saw her apology and the decision to step away. Is that actually the path people "should" take, though? Obviously it's her choice, but I personally would prefer she stick around after, maybe use her stardom for something positive if possible.
 

Shifty360

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Sep 3, 2020
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Then you know better than I. It seems strange then that you wouldn't know if he still held those beliefs as you claimed before.

I don't follow his work, rather I remember others here discussing the issue around him and his Genocide denial. From that along with the fact Ana has been with him for a long time (relatively) speaking, his beliefs and her working there possibly coincide.

Whatever you are trying to imply is dumb and you are being defensive over nothing, except us conversing about a person who denied a genocide.
 
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HustleBun

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Nov 12, 2017
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Jenna Marbles. Did a bunch of bad shit in her early career, became a huge ally, and then when confronted about the shit she did, apologized and left youtube forever.
I used to watch her stuff a long time ago (missed the bad shit, apparently). I saw her apology and the decision to step away. Is that actually the path people "should" take, though? Obviously it's her choice, but I personally would prefer she stick around after, maybe use her stardom for something positive if possible.
That's a tough question to answer.
People joke that she "self-cancelled" but in a way, she did. She called out old videos of herself where she was being problematic and then left the platform.

A friend of mine is a huge fan of hers and sometimes comments that she's heard that she's been in a deep depression for most of the year, but I try to stay out of people's lives if they decide that their lives are no longer public. I think she could have stuck around and kept making content but she clearly felt she needed time away to work on herself. I see you guys agreeing with me about how Arin Hanson addressed his old content but not everyone can address the situation that way.
 

Weltall Zero

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Oct 26, 2017
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At the time he probably felt the need to so that his career would recover from the hit.

That's a pretty terrible example for the thread then.

Also either the way he apologized or the way it's framed implies hiring prostitutes is "worse" (and therefore, more worthy of the headline) than being unfaithful. He should apologize for cheating on his wife, period. Would it be any less of a betrayal of trust if he hadn't paid for it?
 

HMD

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Oct 26, 2017
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Jenna Marbles. Did a bunch of bad shit in her early career, became a huge ally, and then when confronted about the shit she did, apologized and left youtube forever.

And unintentionally (and very thankfully) took down the careers of Shane Dawson and Jeffree Star along with her.
 

Volimar

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Oct 25, 2017
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That's a pretty terrible example for the thread then.

Also either the way he apologized or the way it's framed implies hiring prostitutes is "worse" (and therefore, more worthy of the headline) than being unfaithful. He should apologize for cheating on his wife, period. Would it be any less of a betrayal of trust if he hadn't paid for it?


You're talking about something that happened 25 years ago. Even now a lot of people still look down on sex workers and those who engage their services. Back then, cheating on your wife with a prostitute when you are seen as the consummate gentleman was going to have consequences to your reputation. And let's be very fair here. His apology came off more like he got his hand caught in a cookie jar than that he was caught doing something really wrong. He flashed that boyish grin and stammered out his apology in that Hugh Grant way and that was pretty much it. It likely cost him a bit of work right then and made him the butt of jokes for a while, but other than that I don't think it was ever given the weight that a lot of these other cases are. So no, probably not the best example for a thread like this.
 

Volimar

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Oct 25, 2017
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What do you guys think of Liam Neeson's apology?


I dunno. He's the one that brought it up in the first place, but his admission was pretty awful. I'd really like to think he knows how messed up that was, but then who could really let themselves fall into that mindset in the first place?
 

Nikus

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Oct 25, 2017
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i only started following since a years or so! I was aware of some shit he said but not the sexist anti-feminist stuff, what was that about?

but yeah he's great now
Um what?

The same Jim Sterling that covers the game industry? Sounds nothing like him.
He talked about it in this interview, I hope the link works because it's only accessible through Wayback Machine now:
https://web.archive.org/web/2014101...th-jim-sterling-about-sexism-in-game-culture/
And an article with transcripts of his old tweets, back when he used "feminazi" unironically (brace yourselves, it's awful): https://gomakemeasandwich.wordpress...ords-why-jim-sterling-is-in-fact-very-sexist/

He's effectively not the same person anymore. He's had quite a journey (in good part thanks to his wife).
 

Cranster

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Oct 25, 2017
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Ozzy Osbourne

Apparently during the Monsters of Rock festival in 1986 he made a disparaging remark about Def Leppard letting "the freakshow" play on stage. That being a direct insult to drummer Rick Allen who was playing his first live performances since losing his arm.

Ozzy since apologized to both the band and Rick.
 
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He talked about it in this interview, I hope the link works because it's only accessible through Wayback Machine now:
https://web.archive.org/web/2014101...th-jim-sterling-about-sexism-in-game-culture/
And an article with transcripts of his old tweets, back when he used "feminazi" unironically (brace yourselves, it's awful): https://gomakemeasandwich.wordpress...ords-why-jim-sterling-is-in-fact-very-sexist/

He's effectively not the same person anymore. He's had quite a journey (in good part thanks to his wife).


Not trying to be rude but I though they were gay? Not that it matters in the slightest just never knew they were married!
 

Ragnar

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Oct 28, 2017
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I thought that Eddie Murphy's apology for homophobic comments in his old stand-ups was pretty sincere.
It was, and I think it felt particularly sincere because it was made

A) in the 1990s, when homophobia was still widely tolerated, and the Internet didn't yet allow for public accountability campaigns
B) multiple times (i.e. both in 1996 and again more recently)
 

Polyh3dron

Prophet of Regret
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Oct 25, 2017
9,860
Yeah when I found out just how hardcore Orange County Christian that band Thrice was it kinda soured me on them. Glad Dustin came around.
 

Richietto

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Oct 25, 2017
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Man Arin really did take a turn for the better. I still remember earlier in the year when the BLM protests were in full swing him and Game Grumps coming out in support and apologizing for all the bullshit, and then you look over at Jon Trons twitter and he made a fuckin joke out of it all. Really put it into perspective what kinda person each of them became after all these years.

Jenna Marbles. Did a bunch of bad shit in her early career, became a huge ally, and then when confronted about the shit she did, apologized and left youtube forever.
God I miss her channel so much.
 

someday

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Oct 25, 2017
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That's a pretty terrible example for the thread then.

Also either the way he apologized or the way it's framed implies hiring prostitutes is "worse" (and therefore, more worthy of the headline) than being unfaithful. He should apologize for cheating on his wife, period. Would it be any less of a betrayal of trust if he hadn't paid for it?

Because the prostitute was Black. Back then, that was the worst part about it. I definitely don't see why he is in this thread.
 
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Phendrana

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Oct 26, 2017
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I used to watch defranco's show a couple times a week back in the 2010's, but I completely dropped him after the Gamergate news picked up and he went full along with the "just asking questions" crowd

I would've assumed he'd still be like that to this day but it's good to hear that maybe that's not the case, or that he's distancing from that base
Philip DeFranco's been on my shit list for years for being a centrist and apologist to actual Nazis. Curious if one video changes my mind.
wow way back when this guy was the first non MSM "news" source I ever watched. I was a daily viewer (maybe age 17-18) I don't remember quite when I outgrew him but I do remember checking back in with his channel a few years ago and being amazed I ever watched it. I remember him saying he's a libertarian and voting for Gary Johnson during the 2012 election. He also had gun ownership merchandise lol.
Huh, wow. I started watching the odd video of his probably close to two years ago now, and during that time he's always felt fairly progressive as far as I could tell? He's been highly critical of Trump and is constantly drawing attention to Republican misinformation, or the facts of situations. The video above is definitely not the first time in which he's told Trump supporters to just leave. He's also been calling for harsher gun control laws for the entire time I've been watching, too.

Super surprised to hear about all of this tbh.
 

Sunster

The Fallen
Oct 5, 2018
10,012
Huh, wow. I started watching the odd video of his probably close to two years ago now, and during that time he's always felt fairly progressive as far as I could tell? He's been highly critical of Trump and is constantly drawing attention to Republican misinformation, or the facts of situations. The video above is definitely not the first time in which he's told Trump supporters to just leave. He's also been calling for harsher gun control laws for the entire time I've been watching, too.

Super surprised to hear about all of this tbh.
I was watching him 2011-2012 to clarify. things were quite different on his channel back then. glad I stopped watching before gamergate tho
 

Admiral Woofington

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Oct 25, 2017
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on the topic of Arin I do appreciate that he's owned up to so much and can keep matters private/to smaller groups instead of NEEDING to make absolutely everything public to the biggest amount of people.

I specifically remember the thread of someone here on Era who sent him an interview email way before the recent public twitter situation where the OP specifically asked him to give comments on the now infamous old voice recording of him. He replied in an email with the lengthy apology and left it at that. As a content creator and Game Grumps in general, I've moved on to other content creators of similar fashion since GG doesn't do it for me anymore (out of that circle I follow Rubber Ross on Twitch now) but I respect how much he has done and how much he has changed. Not everyone has to accept his apology of course, just shows that people can absolutely change.