I've kind of debated posting this since this thread popped up, so I'm note sure if this is the place or time for it. If this post is full of shit, I'll acknowledge that and try to learn. I'm trying to be a good ally to everyone but I can't say I understand all the criticism I've read about Contrapoints. Disclaimer: I have not followed Nat after the initial Buck Angel shit went down because that did leave me conflicted enough that I haven't been comfortable watching her content anymore, so I'm not sure about all the more recent stuff that she might've said on her platforms (other than a couple of tweets of hers on my seldomly used Twitter account that people I follow have liked and as such have happened to pop up on my feed during my ~once a month Twitter excursion), but some questions that still linger in my mind are:
-why do people say she is anti-non-binary? Like, I've seen her say multiple times (in her videos that I've seen & on twitter) that she thinks non-binary people exist & are 100% valid. No ifs or buts. If she has ever said something that could maybe be construed as anti-NB, from how I've seen it, she's generally just talked about stuff from her own trans woman POV and it hasn't been any kind of "nothing else outside of this exists" statement, and if anything she has said has seemed that way, she has generally corrected that in the next video. Like, she's talked about non-binary people, gender fluid people etc.in a manner that at least to me has seemed pretty respectful and validating, in a matter of fact manner that hasn't denied those demographics or anything
-why do people claim she acts as if she's the ultimate authority on anything & everything? Like, to me it's clear that she's always talking about these things from her own, white, binary trans POV, not as if nothing outside of her type of trans people exist. And she's often specifically acknowledged non-binary/other trans demographics, though generally still avoided speaking too much on their behalf because she isn't non-binary/gender fluid/anything other than a trans woman. And whenever she talks about stuff like aesthetics, I don't think she has said that nothing else is valid, more about just what she & many other trans women are pursuing and how society unfortunately still views transgender people (& women especially). It's never that she even thinks things should be that way or that every trans woman should be that way, just how things kind of currently are and how she herself is trying to navigate that. She hasn't said other approaches to express their non-cis gender aren't valid.
-while she was too soft on Buck Angel & massively screwed up with his participation in her video in the first place, why so much vitrol for not giving up on trying to talk some sense to Buck or, perhaps more importantly, people like him (at least before this most recent thing)? Like, her whole platform has always been about trying to reach usually pretty shitty people on the other side of the political/ideological argument. Trying to explain & understand where Buck is coming from is not much different from how she has tried to explain & understand where all the alt-right shitheels are coming from that she is trying to push towards trans acceptance.