I like the way I look and I'm comfortable and confident with myself. Are there some things that I nitpick? Sure. Everyone has some things they would change if they could.
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Are you ok with the way you look?
- Thread starter SolVanderlyn
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I hated myself in my mid 20s even though looking back i was pretty fit and there was clearly nothing wrong. It was all in my head. Now, about to turn 31, I have a little belly pudge and I still "wish" I had a nice jawline but I try to practice radical acceptance of my body. It's tough but easier to loop in my thoughts with the rest of my mental health issues and know that what my brain thinks is not a reflection of reality. :)
For the most part yes. Most people consider me attractive. I could stand to lose a little weight though. I'm currently joining a boxing gym to get ripped.
It ebbs and flows.
I vacillate between feeling fine as hell and thinking I look like clinically depressed roadkill. There's actually rarely any grey area there lol.
But I love my dreads, my general build, and most of my facial features, independent of each other. I'm tall and much fitter than average and my brown skin is beautiful. I fixed my teeth a couple years ago with Invisalign (and finally finished paying them hoes off last month), so they're straight as hell. I've also recently tried to learn how to accept the many compliments I receive without shooting them down, externally or internally. It's helped. People think I look nice, so I should worry less. And the ones that don't…fuck em. *shrug*
I vacillate between feeling fine as hell and thinking I look like clinically depressed roadkill. There's actually rarely any grey area there lol.
But I love my dreads, my general build, and most of my facial features, independent of each other. I'm tall and much fitter than average and my brown skin is beautiful. I fixed my teeth a couple years ago with Invisalign (and finally finished paying them hoes off last month), so they're straight as hell. I've also recently tried to learn how to accept the many compliments I receive without shooting them down, externally or internally. It's helped. People think I look nice, so I should worry less. And the ones that don't…fuck em. *shrug*
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I run two miles a day and do other exercises. So I feel pretty dang good even if I don't get hit up too often on dating apps by people I'm attracted to.
Seriously, everyone. Exercise. It will make you feel better.
Seriously, everyone. Exercise. It will make you feel better.
I got some dysphoria for sure, but I'm slowly getting used to it through selfies and changing styles
I'm growing a sick beard right now so yeah I'm doing ok right now. :) And my opinion is the only opinion that matters about what I look like.
im short, bald, getting old and could lose some weight but sometimes i catch myself in the mirror and im like, 'godDAMN im good looking'. lol.
Yeah, aside from one of my front teeth, which has fluorosis from when I was very young. And I hope to get lasik some day, as I think I look better without glasses, and would prefer not to need them.
31 years old. I feel I have good features - smooth skin, good, thick hair, straight teeth. 6'2". But boy do I need to lose some weight/get fit.
My "normal" weight is about 230. When I'm in runner mode, I can get down to about 220. When I was lifting 3hrs day/5days a week, I was up to about 270. Right now I'm just a fat 250 and it doesn't feel good. Between wife and kid and long work hours and travel and constant client dinners and happy hours, a good routine is busy - especially in the winter. Hoping to change things in spring as those aren't good excuses, they're just my excuses.
My "normal" weight is about 230. When I'm in runner mode, I can get down to about 220. When I was lifting 3hrs day/5days a week, I was up to about 270. Right now I'm just a fat 250 and it doesn't feel good. Between wife and kid and long work hours and travel and constant client dinners and happy hours, a good routine is busy - especially in the winter. Hoping to change things in spring as those aren't good excuses, they're just my excuses.
No but my expectations are so unrealistic that my ideal isn't really humanly possible.
So I'm fine with it.
So I'm fine with it.
I could stand to lose a few lbs around the waist area (working on it), but yeah I'm generally okay with how I look. Not bad for a 40 year old office worker who smoked for almost half his life, and still occasionally has more than a few beers on the weekends, anyway.
yeah i guess. maybe I should grow a beard? (I can, but i like to be clean shaven) even though i exercise and slim from the neck down, feel like my face is fat/baby/young boyish (which i'm not, I am late 20s). 185cm tall without shoes
here, rate or roast me era
any way i'm out to get drunk und party
here, rate or roast me era
any way i'm out to get drunk und party
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I used to be in really good shape, now I'm just strong. But sure, I hated how I looked in my early 20s. But I started lifting weights and getting on a good diet so I've been working out for roughly 12 years now. So I'm happy with how I look, and I worked hard for it.
Yeah, its tough. Since I got married at 27 (now 41) I basically quickly gained a ton of weight and was pushing 260 for a lot of the time.
I changed my ways with eating just prior to turning 40 and I'm now about 178-180ish lbs , which i have maintained over the last year which is obviously great, but while I'm obviously far less "wide" overall, and there is massive change in my overall appearance I'm still very jiggly in the midsection- still got that pot belly and love handles that just don't go away (I'm very thin everywhere else, so i'm one of those that just puts everything in the belly area first).
Part of it, is my soul just needs to eat on the weekend (I"m pretty regimented and on schedule during the week, modest calories counts, eating salads at lunch, etc, but come Friday night (and maybe Saturday too) I need a cheesesteak, burger, fries, pizza, Mexican ,etc)) and the other is I just don't work out. But you know, I have the typical story/excuse (family guy, busy with 2 kids (both with lots of extracurriculars, 3 dogs, and never-ending shortage of time & lack of energy to throw regular gym visits into that somehow).
I wish I just could get that truly flat stomach and it eludes me- granted I pretty much look fine in clothes, but I still look at my gut when undressed and its like "Ugh". I know fighting that will take a regular gym regiment and I image a lot of ab work which I dread, but just not sure I will eever find time & motivation to make it happen.
I changed my ways with eating just prior to turning 40 and I'm now about 178-180ish lbs , which i have maintained over the last year which is obviously great, but while I'm obviously far less "wide" overall, and there is massive change in my overall appearance I'm still very jiggly in the midsection- still got that pot belly and love handles that just don't go away (I'm very thin everywhere else, so i'm one of those that just puts everything in the belly area first).
Part of it, is my soul just needs to eat on the weekend (I"m pretty regimented and on schedule during the week, modest calories counts, eating salads at lunch, etc, but come Friday night (and maybe Saturday too) I need a cheesesteak, burger, fries, pizza, Mexican ,etc)) and the other is I just don't work out. But you know, I have the typical story/excuse (family guy, busy with 2 kids (both with lots of extracurriculars, 3 dogs, and never-ending shortage of time & lack of energy to throw regular gym visits into that somehow).
I wish I just could get that truly flat stomach and it eludes me- granted I pretty much look fine in clothes, but I still look at my gut when undressed and its like "Ugh". I know fighting that will take a regular gym regiment and I image a lot of ab work which I dread, but just not sure I will eever find time & motivation to make it happen.
Way back in the day, I had a random guy call me a pretty boy before punching me in the face.
The negative obviously was getting punched in the face.
The positive was another dude who was a complete stranger called me a pretty boy.
The negative obviously was getting punched in the face.
The positive was another dude who was a complete stranger called me a pretty boy.
If I put some effort in I can clean up ok but no beard ever and I'll probably never be in shape cause I can't do gyms.
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It's kind of strange. I feel like I don't look too bad, when I look at myself in the mirror I feel like I look good but when I look at pictures or videos of myself I look like shit. Sadly only these two latter instances represent my true self so I'm fucked.
For the most part yes, I lost around 70 pounds the last year and a half. So I can now pass as skinny but the remaining fat is in my stomach so that sucks. Also not happy that I gained ten pounds in the last month. But that has been because I'm in the early stages of my first relationship in ten years so I have been eating out way to much. And my new found appreciation for liquor is not helping🤣
No, I used to be but not anymore.
I've been at a pretty low point for a long while now, I've completely stopped exercising and I've been drinking more than usual, so I've gained a lot of weight.
Not to mention I've had a ton of problem with my teeth these last couple of months but as I'm unemployed I dont have enough money to go to a dentist.
I've been at a pretty low point for a long while now, I've completely stopped exercising and I've been drinking more than usual, so I've gained a lot of weight.
Not to mention I've had a ton of problem with my teeth these last couple of months but as I'm unemployed I dont have enough money to go to a dentist.
Took a couple of decades, but I'm starting to find beauty in the aspects of myself I used to hate.
So yay for slowly growing self confidence
So yay for slowly growing self confidence
I swim or run four times a week to say yes to this question but yes, I love how I feel and how my body feels and definitely how I look. I'll never be pretty, but then again, few people are!
I could do without all the grey hair, but everyone tells me it looks "sophisticated", so whatever. I'd be happy if I could just lose that last 10 lbs or so too, but overall I think I'm one handsome motherfucker.
