A thing about the personal exceptions: Why should the marginalized care about your specific loved ones?
Like, of course they're nice and redeemable to you. They give you lollipops and head pats before going on down to the confederate march with tiki torches and red hats. But we don't know them from Adam's housecat. A racist is a racist. If we had to consider this for every single asshole we probably wouldn't be as far along as we are.
Marginalized folks have to give their families "the talk" because we are not allowed the benefit of the doubt in the wider world given by close family. Just because we understand our children's habits and mannerisms doesn't mean a cop will. Folks in majority groups need to start doing the same. Snatch the bigots in your family to the side before someone in the streets will.
Like, of course they're nice and redeemable to you. They give you lollipops and head pats before going on down to the confederate march with tiki torches and red hats. But we don't know them from Adam's housecat. A racist is a racist. If we had to consider this for every single asshole we probably wouldn't be as far along as we are.
Marginalized folks have to give their families "the talk" because we are not allowed the benefit of the doubt in the wider world given by close family. Just because we understand our children's habits and mannerisms doesn't mean a cop will. Folks in majority groups need to start doing the same. Snatch the bigots in your family to the side before someone in the streets will.