When coalitions are founded on a shared identity category and harassment campaigns are undertaken with the intention of 'advocating for' that identity category, it's perfectly reasonable to not want to opt in to that category. A lot of anti-dev abuse comes with the tagline that the speaker is 'speaking for gamers'—self-identifying as a gamer means including yourself in that voice.You mean the pretentious distinction of "I'm not one of them!"? It's literally virtue signaling, worthless. My mom has a little game on her phone, she's a gamer. See where I'm going? People just like feeling superior about how much of a gamer they aren't.
Maybe the right question is why you feel so driven to insist upon what other people identify as?