Ok but your experience is also not everyone's experience. You may have lost an opportunity simply due to merit but that doesn't mean there isn't a black person or woman or transgender person who was denied an opportunity because the person evaluating them was a bigot.
Furthermore that line of questioning highlighted the fact that there are so few minority and female partners at top100 firms that it really is a black eye for the profession. Furthermore these are global firms and their diversity figures are abysmal. Unfortunately the same thing applies to tech, finance and frankly virtually every sector/industry in the S&P 500.