The number of people who obviously responded to the subject line and didn't even bother reading the OP I think tells you a lot more about toxic and dismissive behavior here.
It's very much a control thing, and if a man is holding the door for a women it's basically upholding the patriarchy. I'm surprised OP is getting dunked.It's not considerate. It's a power move.
they hold the door open and now they just forced you to up your pace so that you don't seem inconsiderate. You're basically their bitch.
I read the op and my response would still the same.The number of people who obviously responded to the subject line and didn't even bother reading the OP I think tells you a lot more about toxic and dismissive behavior here.
GTFO with that shit.It's very much a control thing, and if a man is holding the door for a women it's basically upholding the patriarchy. I'm surprised OP is getting dunked.
It's very much a control thing, and if a man is holding the door for a women it's basically upholding the patriarchy. I'm surprised OP is getting dunked.
OP, when someone hold a door for you, or other similar acts, that means the one doing it acknowledge you as a fellow human being.
If you pass without saying anything, or nodding to him, it means either that you take this is your due, which imply you see him as a lesser being compared to yourself, or that you see him as not worthy of your notice.
Do you not realise how insulting that is?
If they're upset because you don't acknowledge it, they were doing it for the wrong reason and that is their problem.
Holding doors open is sexist.
Such a woke observation, your eyes must be tired from having to keep open all the time from this wokeness.
Because the topic is about people who act snide and entitled over some small favor they performed, rather than the OP simply disliking those who do small favors.Not sure how the OP makes any better of a point than the subject line
It's not considerate. It's a power move.
they hold the door open and now they just forced you to up your pace so that you don't seem inconsiderate. You're basically their bitch.
I'm sorry but a sarcastic "you're welcome", while a little dickish is in no way an "aggressive reaction."I'm sorry for replying earlier without fully reading the single-paragraph OP. The bolded is really messed up. That's nasty, and of course, if a situation gives rise to aggressive reactions like that, then it's understandable that OP would develop an aversion to situations that would expose her to that kind of aggression.
Hey dumbshit most women don't care about doors being opened for them, I know this because I actually talk and listen to women in real life. Most of the most important people in my life are women and they'll tell you exactly who I am. Not that it matters we don't care about you. So miss me with all that asshole.One thing is men looming over women in narrow doorways expecting gratitude for their antiquated ~chivalry~ It's clueless and creepy. Or maybe some realise it's threatening and that's the intention, considering a number of men on here also said they'd continue to cold approach women in public despite women in the thread stating it makes them deeply uncomfortable.
You can usually tell when the other person isn't doing it for kudos as ime there's no staring down as you pass through. I just give 'em a quick thanks and move on, nbd.
This attitude is why women rarely bother to talk to men like you on these subjects and we're shouted out of these threads. Maybe if you were less dismissive and bothered to listen then you could get some actual insight on the matter. Or you could keep making stupid fucking quips looking like an ignorant ass.
Because the topic is about people who act snide and entitled over some small favor they performed, rather than the OP simply disliking those who do small favors.
Nah. I disagree completely.
So you think people secretly open doors for people just to get thanks out of it? That doesn't make any sense. If you do something kind for an ingrate then all bets are off.
Context matters too. Depending how people go through the door held open without gratitude impacts the situation. Some people will go through smugly as if you don't even exist, which is the exact opposite of the way you just treated them. In cases like that people absolutely earn a smartass response. I haven't done it every time someone goes by without a thanks, but sometimes when I detect complete apathy from someone I'll be like k fuck them then and say something.
We're just trying to keep your soul from getting out.Totally agree hate when people say bless you too
I don't need to be "blessed" by your fake sky fairy. Want to throw my hat at the next person that says that and laugh with mirth. I don't want to cause a scene though Instead I shall just look gormlessly and say nothing
I'm sorry but a sarcastic "you're welcome", while a little dickish is in no way an "aggressive reaction."
I'm sorry but a sarcastic "you're welcome", while a little dickish is in no way an "aggressive reaction."
Aggressive reaction implies the dude grabbed OP and shook them like "How DARE you not thank me! I held the door open for you!"
While no one is entitled to a thank you, it's still rude not to thank someone doing a kind gesture for you. Some people will react negatively with their own rudeness when you're rude to them. You can't exactly act in a rude manner and not expect someone to respond in kind. And no, I'm not excusing the dude for his little snide remark but it was just that - a snide remark. It's not "really messed up". It's as slightly rude as not thanking someone for holding the door open. Hardly something to traumatize someone for life. It really isn't understandable that OP has this much of an aversion to people holding doors based on this.
It's very much a control thing, and if a man is holding the door for a women it's basically upholding the patriarchy. I'm surprised OP is getting dunked.
Because the topic is about people who act snide and entitled over some small favor they performed, rather than the OP simply disliking those who do small favors.
I don't want to have to look at a random person and say thank you every time I go in somewhere at the same time as someone because they held the door open for me.
It's almost as if the snarky incident left the OP feeling obligated to say "Thank you" because apparently not doing so gives some people license to talk to you like you're a piece of shit. It's all kind of inter-related here.The second half of the OP was talking about a specific incident where someone acted snide. The meat of the OP is being upset at the idea of having to say thank you any time someone opens a door for them.
I do...that's why I said I do? I don't get your point.
It may or may not have been.
Door holding is right up there with ass pennies.Is this a real post? It seems too stupid to be real but I can't tell.
It's ironic how the select few are pointing only to that part of the op, then accusing others of not reading the whole op.Take your own advice and read the OP:
The OP clearly has a problem with people doing small favors.
This attitude is why women rarely bother to talk to men like you on these subjects and we're shouted out of these threads. Maybe if you were less dismissive and bothered to listen then you could get some actual insight on the matter. Or you could keep making stupid fucking quips looking like an ignorant ass.
I'm all for holding doors but how is "getting smashed into a door or hurting yourself" an alternative to holding doors? Do people physically attack others for not holding doors where you are?No because it's a common courtesy where I grew up so I just do it on command now and expect it in kind of a better alternative than getting smashed into a door or hurting yourself.
No I just mean when someone opens the door and don't hold it open and your right behind them the door can close on you I've walked into doors alot :(I'm all for holding doors but how is "getting smashed into a door or hurting yourself" an alternative to holding doors? Do people physically attack others for not holding doors where you are?
It's almost as if the snarky incident left the OP feeling obligated to say "Thank you" because apparently not doing so gives some people license to talk to you like you're a piece of shit. It's all kind of inter-related here.
Oof. Sorry to hear that. Stay safe with those doors. Squished fingers are a motherfucker.No I just mean when someone opens the door and don't hold it open and your right behind them the door can close on you I've walked into doors alot :(