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Anyone else hate when people hold a door open for them?
- Thread starter Shining Star
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Good grief...there's always something. Do some of y'all just not interact w/ people outside of the internet?
Here's a good rule of thumb: Some people are jerks, most people aren't. If someone's polite only because they expect politeness back, it's on them. But complaining about how you hate people doing something as benign as holding a door for you just seems asinine.
Here's a good rule of thumb: Some people are jerks, most people aren't. If someone's polite only because they expect politeness back, it's on them. But complaining about how you hate people doing something as benign as holding a door for you just seems asinine.
If you get a gift or something you don't like from someone, you still say thank you.
i dont like it if they are more than a couple steps ahead
like if i am at the end of a hallway and they just turn around with the door making me hurry up because im like 15 feet away thats just asinine behavior
same as when cars stop turning in extremely early when im not even near the curb of the sidewalk because it seems that everyone who drives is either super aggressive or ridiculously passive
like if i am at the end of a hallway and they just turn around with the door making me hurry up because im like 15 feet away thats just asinine behavior
same as when cars stop turning in extremely early when im not even near the curb of the sidewalk because it seems that everyone who drives is either super aggressive or ridiculously passive
Nah man, I don't get mad at people being nice to me. Not sure if you lack the self-esteem or just have social anxiety but it ain't a bad thing that others do these things for you, after all they opt to do so out of their own volition and not because you ask them to hold the door open.
Like my ass is introverted as all hell but even I manage to acknowledge how nice it is for someone to do such a thing. In a world where assholes run rampant, being shown a little kindness like that always brightens my day.
Like my ass is introverted as all hell but even I manage to acknowledge how nice it is for someone to do such a thing. In a world where assholes run rampant, being shown a little kindness like that always brightens my day.
It's a door, not sexual interactions. Consent not needed.
It sounds like something you made up to justify your own weird interpretation of people just being nice.
When someone offers me a glass of water I throw it in their face and scream "I don't need your petty charity!"
When someone lets me go first when they clearly got to it before me, I slap them and scream "I don't need your filthy pitty!"
When someone holds the door open for me I stomp on their foot and scream "I don't need your flabbergasting assistance fool do I appear incapable of such a task!? Do I have no hands!? What were you thinking, 'this poor man would struggle to figure out how a door knob works'!? I spit on you. I fart as I pass you. If there is a second door, I slam it in your face!"
When someone lets me go first when they clearly got to it before me, I slap them and scream "I don't need your filthy pitty!"
When someone holds the door open for me I stomp on their foot and scream "I don't need your flabbergasting assistance fool do I appear incapable of such a task!? Do I have no hands!? What were you thinking, 'this poor man would struggle to figure out how a door knob works'!? I spit on you. I fart as I pass you. If there is a second door, I slam it in your face!"
What if they aren't in a hurry and just want to wait to be nice?
If it's a woman holding the door open, eh fine whatever.
If it's a man, he might as well tip a fedora.
If it's a man, he might as well tip a fedora.
I mean, who wouldn't want to buy drinks for a beaming ray of sunshine like OP?
If you're walking fairly closely behind someone going through a doorway, would you prefer the door to just shut in your face?
You should add a poll to this thread - I'd be interested in the results. My guess, before reading the thread, is that the general reaction will be disagreement with your perspective. :-)
No.
But I do think it can get awkward sometimes when you and someone else get to the door at the same time. Then who opens it?
Also awkward: you and someone else opening the door at the same time from opposite sides.
But I do think it can get awkward sometimes when you and someone else get to the door at the same time. Then who opens it?
Also awkward: you and someone else opening the door at the same time from opposite sides.
This is what I do when I have my headphones in and don't feel like talking. I just nod politely and the message is sent. It's really not hard.
I instead opt for the only reasonable option, which is to avoid a politely opened door and punch my way through the nearest brick wall instead
No person can challenge my individuality with their insidious niceties. I know deep down, it's part of a conspiracy. The door is a symbol for passing through the hoops of this mad bureaucratic society!!!!!!
No person can challenge my individuality with their insidious niceties. I know deep down, it's part of a conspiracy. The door is a symbol for passing through the hoops of this mad bureaucratic society!!!!!!
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Someone holding the door open for you is not someone who isn't leaving you alone. And unless you are walking through a door every minute, how the hell is this an inconvenience? Are you a doorman by any chance?
Also if you want to be left alone, stop walking through doors into places with people.
Also if you want to be left alone, stop walking through doors into places with people.
Lmao my dude, either stop making shit up or stop going to leadership training hosted by Michael Scott
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thats cool for them but just because they arent in a hurry it doesnt mean i wont find it offputting
like whats the alternative, i continue walking slowly and they are holding the door for ten seconds while we stare at each other
no dude
It is really not hard to 1) be an adult, 2) act like a human, and 3) have an ounce of compassion/respect. Every week in Etc there's at least three threads that will desperately try to convince you otherwise like "but have you considered...", but no. No. It really isn't
Cis white male here. I don't mind it at all and I think the majority of people don't either. At least, they definitely don't where I live. People hold doors open walking through the metro/subway all the time.
The fact that this has to be said is just so bizarre to me lol
This is like social skills level 1 class.
I consider myself introverted and even I think this is sociopathic.
The effort needed to reciprocate such a simple gesture is so minimal, that you maybe should meditate on why you don't want to engage in the most rudimentary of human interaction.
I feel like it requires way more effort to be upset about this.
I feel like it requires way more effort to be upset about this.
no
I do get slightly annoyed when you're quite far away and you have to speed up to be polite yourself though. But hey, they're trying to be nice so...
I do get slightly annoyed when you're quite far away and you have to speed up to be polite yourself though. But hey, they're trying to be nice so...
Um no.
Saying thanks or even nodding at someone really isn't a big deal and honestly you kinda deserve a sarcastic "thank you" or "you're welcome" for that.
People are just trying to be nice. Letting a door close in your damn face is much worse. How would THAT not bother you more?
Saying thanks or even nodding at someone really isn't a big deal and honestly you kinda deserve a sarcastic "thank you" or "you're welcome" for that.
People are just trying to be nice. Letting a door close in your damn face is much worse. How would THAT not bother you more?
There's a blind man who opened the door for me yesterday at work. I said "Thanks!" and he happily said "No problem! I got this. Have a good one."
It was fucking awful. Fight the power OP.
It was fucking awful. Fight the power OP.
