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Am I a golddigger?
- Thread starter Kismet
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Okay, OP. I did this shit in my younger 20's. If a guy was cute, somewhat responsible, had a place of his own, and liked to get high, he was pretty much guaranteed to be my boyfriend for at least a few months. It's nice not having to pay for rent, utilities, and pot. Though I never mislead them. I was always straight-up and they had to be cool with it. I would basically say "Hey I'm just looking for a friend to live and have fun with. If you want something more serious, I'm not your girl." Most were okay, some said they were okay but eventually weren't. Regardless, as long as you're honest, the relationship won't implode.
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OP you keep saying you wanna give it a chance and see what the future holds and that maybe, just maybe, you'll like him in the future. But if he wasn't loaded you wouldn't be giving him this chance so that's not cool. If in a month you don't so much as like this guy, what makes you think you will in time? You won't. You're just gonna be in it for the money.
Well if OP doesn't care about the input people have been providing for 10 pages is there any point in this thread still being open
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Maybe we should phrase an argument in a way that appeals to OPs insatiable narcissism:
OP, you're such an incredible guy, person, lover, and critical thinker. Do you really think you couldn't land a wealthy person who you're also attracted to? I think you can! I believe in you OP! Someone like you shouldn't settle just for wealth! You deserve it all!
OP, you're such an incredible guy, person, lover, and critical thinker. Do you really think you couldn't land a wealthy person who you're also attracted to? I think you can! I believe in you OP! Someone like you shouldn't settle just for wealth! You deserve it all!
Youre making him happy with your presence. Its a win win situation. Maybe you'll develop feelings down the road, just make sure you dont become fully dependent (dont quit your job etc), thats going to also make you less attractive to him if you dont have anything else going for yourself
So you're calling my comments hateful, since you're not responding to them?
Yes, you are. The question is whether you're comfortable with it. If you are, cool.
But he needs to know this too, it's unfair to him otherwise.
If you want to be spoiled and he wants to spoil you and he's happy with the situation and you're happy, fuck it.
But he needs to know this too, it's unfair to him otherwise.
If you want to be spoiled and he wants to spoil you and he's happy with the situation and you're happy, fuck it.
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I actually had more rich men after me and offer me things. But those were old and ugly. So I wasn't interested. If this one would be old and ugly, I would bail out hardddd.
Most of my exes were financially well off as well. I like to date men who also made it. Nothing wrong with it, I guess.
if this makes me an asshole, then so be it. This guy also likes me because of my position in life.
Yeah, just stop denying you're materialistic, maybe?
It's not well hidden lol.
Lol but I'm not calling you an asshole, I'm calling you a liar.
A relationship based on courting or being courted with money sounds exhausting to me.
So I can't help you out here OP, looks like we live life differently.
So I can't help you out here OP, looks like we live life differently.
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Sure, that's ok.
I will not post any proof here. Why should I?
But I will send it later to a mod, as I promised. I'm currently at work.
Ha, ok I've read a few of the linked threads from the OP. I'm convinced none of this is real and that OP lives in a fantasy world where they're wealthy, successful and deeply sexually attractive. I presume in actuality they are none of these things.
Sad!
Sad!
Being with someone rich isn't anything to brag about or be proud of. Can you accept and internalize that?
So I hope you're proud of how he made his money. You come across as exceptionally full of yourself, with a history of concerns about money and relationships that seems more than coincidental.
I'm in a similar situation to OP, in that my wife works and makes good money, and I dont.
Difference is, my wife is my hero and I'm deeply in love with her.
And we started dating before she had money, but that's kinda beside the point.
EDIT: Wanted to add, your jab earlier about not procrastinating in your mom's basement is particularly funny to me, since that was definitely me, yet we're going to end up in similar positions. Being in a relationship supported by someone wealthy leading to increased free time. Mine will just have love and trust as part of the equation.
Trust is a big part of it. I buy whatever I want, no permission needed. I think a large part of why it works is because i love her, and because of that love, she trusts me. I'm not going to take advantage of her. Your boyfriend will never be able to say that about you, I fear. Do you have compatible family goals?
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This is why I hate this site sometimes. I can definitely be an asshole, but I'm no liar.
Not everyone who has a good life is a liar. And I do have a good life. I've posted many pics on discord of myself. I exist. I even posted nudes there haha.
And I get attention from members here as well with their sometimes creepy pm's. ( I won't mention names)
But if you don't want to believe this, then that's your own right.
Not everyone who has a good life is a liar. And I do have a good life. I've posted many pics on discord of myself. I exist. I even posted nudes there haha.
And I get attention from members here as well with their sometimes creepy pm's. ( I won't mention names)
But if you don't want to believe this, then that's your own right.
C'mon what do you expect from all your posts? And yes you are an asshole.
I would probably start creating stories to post as threads if I was desperate for attention too.
Did someone sound a foghorn for arseholes? By all means find fault in OP's story, don't believe him, don't approve of what he's up to, but is the hostility really all that necessary?
I don't see any reason to declare open season on insulting members here, it's not usually all that accepted
I don't see any reason to declare open season on insulting members here, it's not usually all that accepted
There are a lot of words that describe how you come across; judging by the content of your threads on here you're at the very least manipulative and cruel and whole host of undesirable traits too.
But whatever. I still doubt any of this is true, but working under the assumption you're genuine; you didn't want any actual advice from this thread on your situation. You created it as a vehicle to push your self-aggrandizing agenda.
This. The money is not worth it! You will regret it if you stay with him. Sending expensive gifts is also in really poor taste. What is "really wealthy" btw? $2M? $5M? $20M? $100M? How do you actually know he's really wealthy? This is sending off huge red flags.
And the grindr profile. I wonder what lengths if any he went to to hide himself there (if that's even possible, not familiar myself). Or maybe the boyfriend wouldn't care. Kinda hard to read.
See, you really seem to care to tell us things like this when it really does nothing but brag about your position.
I'm feeling bad for him, OP is using the guy. I find it weird how there's some in this thread that want to defend the OP and have zero sympathy for the rich guy just because he's rich. Going as far as to talk about his "privilege" and "power dynamics".
Even more ridiculous when OP is now bragging about being well off, too.
I at least see the appeal of gold digging if you're not well-off yourself. There's something understandable there, even if I think it's still a poor idea. But if you're already doing well? Makes no sense to me. Sounds like quite the dystopian and miserable lifestyle.
Yeah, reading through the thread, and given history, this is attention seeking/bragging.
Despite that, OP, this sounds potentially dangerous. Be safe, and enjoy your life.
Just quit bragging about it and acting like you're "just asking questions."
Despite that, OP, this sounds potentially dangerous. Be safe, and enjoy your life.
Just quit bragging about it and acting like you're "just asking questions."
It's the manifestation of a perverted world view. Reads like wealth-worshipping. A thread to brag about how much money he has, and his ability to attract those with wealth, like that freaking matters lol.
Haha
Just going off the first post...OP, you're not a golddigger; what you are is a sugar babe, and there IS a difference.
Now to keep reading to find where things get messy.