Very well said and you are absolutely right. One thing that is particularly important in your statement is acknowledgement that self-reflection and agency is crucial. It took awhile for you, but you eventually recognized what was and wasn't healthy for you and are now able to protect yourself going forward.
There is a difference between an openly toxic "crunch" — god I hate the connotation that word now has — and "buckling down and getting shit done because that's your job". It is incumbent on the individual to exercise agency and protect themself. Health ALWAYS come first, even if that means stepping away from a job, as terrifying as that sounds, that you know is not right for you. Every single person can emotionally, mentally, and physically tolerate a different degree of work stress. It's up to you to learn what that breaking point is and be proactive about avoiding it.
This blanket statement from the Crunch Bunch Patrol about "All crunch bad. Capitalism shit" is absolutely asinine.
Notice in most of these crunch-related threads, those who are in, or have been, in the industry, like you, are much more reasoned and appropriate in their approach to crunch and its potential dangers. Those who haven't had made a single game in their lives stick out like a sore thumb with their often completely unrealistic black-and-white takes on the subject.
As a brief epilogue, the above is why I'm worried about Schreier's next crusade to solve crunch with his next book. He is a good writer and a smart man, but as someone who I dont't believe has ever made a game, I hope he keeps his approach as reasoned as possible, allows the stories speak for themselves, and avoids editorializing about something he has no firsthand experience with.
Sorry for the wall of text. I am feeling oddly pensive and stream-of-consciousness today. And thanks again for your very nice post.
The funniest thing about Schreier is that, I have no doubt he works very long hours at his job, that also has no down time (ie- he takes and sends emails/correspondence/etc at all hours of the day and night). This isn't some indictment of OH YOU DO IT TOO MR HYPOCRITE, but it's odd that he doesn't see the connection between him being one of the more respected journos and his own lifestyle.
He would likely point to many other people in his field that work just as hard or harder than him and not get any recognition (which is also an uncomfortable truism: hard work and long hours is no guarantee of recognition or even quality results), but I'd wonder how many people he could point to his field that work much less than him and produce the same work.